Post # 1
Ok so i am very recently engaged lol. And its to someone whom i was with before but we had taken time apart. We are back together and are in love with each other even more then we were before. 🙂 When i told my mother that my fiancee popped the question. Her response was that he was bs-ing me. And that he didnt really love me. Needless to say I am very disappointed in the fact that she would say these things. To anyone let alone her ONLY daughter. Now I love my mother and my fiancee very much. They dont always get along. But neither do my mother and I. Never really have actually. Ive tried talking with her and it only ended up in an arguement. I dont wanna have to chose between her and my fiancee. I want them both in my life. Im at a lost of what to do in this situation. Everyone else seems to be supportive BUT her. Has anyone else had to deal with a similar situation? And if so what did you do to resolve the issue?
Post # 3
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS on becoming engaged! enjoy this time, be happy and take in every minute!
I am sorry that your mom was not more supportive…! I cannot offer you any advice, except to sit down with her and tell her that despite your differences (or differences between your new fiancee and your mom), it would mean the world to you if she can come on board and be truly happy for you! Are you happy? If so, that is really all your mom should be concerned about! Tell her you are happy, and that you need the number one person in your life (your mom) to share your joy with!
Post # 4
Is your mom, generally unsupportive, or is it just this one thing? If it’s just this one thing, sit down with her, hear out her concerns. If she’s generally unsupportive, then she’s probably not going to change for your wedding (or ever). My mom hasn’t really been involved in my wedding planning because she doesn’t do anything but judge and criticize. I’ve been relying on my friends instead. If this is just how she is, you can’t fix it. Just get your support elsewhere and keep reminding yourself that you’re not the problem – she is.