- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
This is my first post. I don’t mean for it to sound like a rant, but I’ve been pretty depressed about it since the beginning of the year and I need some support from fellow brides.
It’s a long story, but I’ll make as short as possible. The whole story might sound insane, but I reassure you, it’s true. You can’t make stuff like this up.
— My mother is extremely superstitious. When my fiance and I started dating, she disapproved because the elements of our zodiac animals weren’t compatible.
–It all started after a dinner with my future in-laws. Apparently, they didn’t order the appropriate food befitting an engagement celebration, so my mom got the “sense” that they disapprove of me. Right after dinner, she yells at me for hours about how I shouldn’t think she’s imagining things, and the day after, she tells me I need to break up with my fiance because our marriage is cursed with bad luck. Naturally, I tell her no way and that she’s bonkers.
–At some point, we make up, but she continues to call me every other day to tell me that my fiance is going to cheat on me one day, he’s going to treat me badly, he’s going to steal my money, etc. etc. Stuff that has absolutely not bearing at all. After a month or two, I just can’t take it any more and I email my dad asking him to make her stop.
–What I don’t know is that she’s started reading my dad’s emails. As a result, she goes REALLY bonkers. She’s disowned me, she’s forbidden my family from attending my wedding, and she’s threatened my father with divorce if he so much as speaks to me. He told her that she was overreacting, and she went postal on him. I’ve told him that she needs treatment, and he agrees, but he’s terrified of her — so terrified that he won’t even stand up to her for me, but that’s another story.
–It’s been a couple of months since I’ve spoken to her, but I’ve been finding out that she’s been “lunching” with all her family friends, many of whom have known me since I was a toddler, and telling them that I’m evil, they shouldn’t go to my wedding, etc. This hurts, but it doesn’t bother me too much because I assume that they’ll think she’s crazy. Unfortunately, I just found out that some of them actually BELIEVE her! And I find out that one of my teachers, who I’ve known since I was four and have been emailing since her mom is sick, calls my mom up after I email her to gossip about me.
–I have no idea what to do. Fiance thinks I should tell people that my mom is insane, because he thinks I’m acting like a victim. I just don’t want to become vengeful and crazy. I’d prefer to forget about the whole thing and move on with my marriage and be happy, but it hurts that my own father might not come to my wedding because he’s scared of my mother.
I know this is a lot, but any advice, anyone?