- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
My Mom has always been supportive of me. I get along fantastic with my parents and, not only am I happy to go home and just “hang out” and be family for a week or two, but we’ve often met in various places around the country for family vacations. I’m 34 and have lived far from home for all of my adult life… I’ve always been very independent and my mother is very proud of that (she married and settled down young). BUT – I received a phone call from my older sister today saying our Mom has been “depressed” since the wedding (almost 2 weeks ago now) and apparently feels that I will abandon my surprise visits and family vacations now because I live 3000 miles away (this isn’t new!) and am married (new!). I feel terrible about this… but really can’t understand why she would assume such things. I’ve always been in their lives and now that I am married (and my husband’s family is on the east coast too) we will likely be home more than I was before I got married.
Has anyone else had problems with their Mom feeling like she’s lost her daughter to marriage? This is such a confusing thing for me to deal with… it’s not like I haven’t been independent for the last 16 years!
(FWIW, she adores my husband, so I don’t think it has anything to do with him.)