Post # 1
I wanted to get an opinion on this, since there’s definitely tradition when it comes to mother of the bride vs mother of the groom dresses. The situation: the future Mother-In-Law emailed me to show me her dress, a kind of medium taupe just below the knee dress she found while in London on business. She sent me a link, looks lovely, I said great! My mom has also found her dress, a long Tadashi dress, navy, with a chiffon-like texture with a sort of nude underlayer, and asymmetrical neckline. Really pretty on her in the pics, though the pic online does not do it justice. I love how it looks on her.
So my future Mother-In-Law asked if it was a problem that she had purchased this knee length dress while my mom had found a full length. Our wedding is going to be an evening wedding with a cocktail reception around 8pm with dancing, drinks, hors d’oeuvres, and cake instead of dinner, and I just don’t know if it’s a huge deal that their dresses will be different lengths. I just want them both to feel their best (and my mom is a little more conservative in dress and goes for calf or full length dresses and skirts typically) – any thoughts? Sorry for the long post!
Post # 3
No problem. IMO, it would be a bit of an issue if it was the other way around (MOG is long, more formal, MOB in short) as the MOB shouldn’t be “shown up” in terms of formality by the MOG. But I think those two dresses sound fine!
Post # 4
Personally I dont think it matters. They dont have to coordinate at all
Post # 5
I am all for people wearing whatever they want. Nobody is going to take a picture of your mom standing next to his mom. Maybe in a family portrait, but people don’t match in those anyway.
In our case I think our mothers pressured each other into long dresses. I don’t really understand how this happened because they both said (inidivdually) that they are more comfortable in shorter dresses, but then each went out and bought a floor-length evening dress. At that point I just backed away slowly and thought I’d leave them alone.
Post # 6
my mom’s was full length and my MIL’s was knee length. It was totally fine.
Post # 7
How funny my mom and I had this argument this weekend!
Her dress is very formal and long and we THOUGHT that FMIL’s dress was slinky and short, so my mom got very upset saying that Future Mother-In-Law should have realized our wedding was more formal and should have “dressed accordingly” (background: my mom is a debutante and Future Mother-In-Law is NOT from that mindset).
Turns out FMIL’s dress IS long (and slinky), crises adverted.
I think you will be fine though because the dress hits just below the knee and ultimately whatever they are both the most comfortable in is the BEST.
Post # 9
It shouldn’t matter. My mother wore a long Tadashi dress while his mother was dressed more casual (recuperating from heart surgery). I say wear what’s most comfortable.
Post # 10
Thank you SO much everyone for the responses! I love the MOG’s dress, it’s perfect for her – and it’s a designer Kate Middleton wore recently, I’m so excited to see it on her. And my mom just raved about hers, so I’m just happy they are happy!