(Closed) mother of bride/mother of groom dress colors?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I say no real rules here. 

I’d probably discourage mourning shrouds from your mother-in-law or maybe really bright red or white, but other than that… sky’s the limit.

I had bridesmaids in silver, and my mom wore grey, and his wore a black with floral print.


Post # 5
8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@julyweddinglovebirds:  I’ve seen some amazing MOB and MOG dresses in platinum and pewter that would probably go with your colors.  Silver could be an option for them too.  Our moms are probably going to be wearing golds and neutrals, but I told them I didn’t care if they showed up in a wedding dress, so I won’t know what they’re wearing until that day.

Post # 7
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@julyweddinglovebirds:  Just let them choose.  I gave absolutely no guidance, and two grown women showed up at my wedding appropriately dressed.  I went shopping with my mom just for fun, and we picked her grey dress (same colour, but totally different than the bridesmaids).  They don’t have to be matchy matchy.  I’d say even a green, grey, blush, brown etc would be totally fine with a purple colour scheme. 

For mine, the only colours I “banned” were bright red since Darling Husband was wearing a red uniform that’s a really weird red that clashes with all other reds, and purples.  I kinda said no black, since in our culture if worn by the groom’s family it means they disapprove of the marriage, but the black/print was fairly ok.  If they turn up in the same colour, no big deal.  They really won’t be in THAT many pictures with the bridesmaids, so even if they don’t perfectly compliment those dresses, it’s not the end of the world.

Trying to think of other weddings I’ve been to… I’ve seen both wear beige (wedding colours were black pink and gold), one wear black/white print and the other royal blue (wedding colours were purple/silver), and one where they wore brown (same as bridesmaids) and navy (colours were tiffany blue and brown).  All looked just fine!

Post # 9
1083 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I didn’t know there were rules on mother’s dresses? I let them choose their own. My mom bought her dress first and chose pomegranate, which is a really rich pink. FI’s mother chose a teal dress. This actually worked out really well because our colors are teal, pink, and purple. . . the girls are wearing jade which is more of a green teal. . . and FI’s mom is wearing more of a blue teal.

Post # 10
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wanted the moms to be in jewel tones, whereas the BMs and FGs were in yellow. They felt more comfortable in the darker colors, and I liked the contrast. I wanted them to have some beading on their dresses to tie everything together, since mine was so heavily beaded, and I think it all worked out beautifully. I don’t think there are any real rules with the moms, as long as their length/coverage is appropriate.




Post # 11
2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My wedding ‘colors’ are black & ivory with splashes of red, silver, & gold.  All the guys will be in black tuxes with black bowties.  My bridesmaids are wearing black, my mom is wearing silver and Future Mother-In-Law is wearing gold.  My mom picked her dress first.  I told her anything black, deep red, silver, gold, copper, pewter, purple, pink, ivory, etc. Just no navy (she wore Navy to my sisters wedding and I thought that would clash with my dad’s black tux) and no white.

After my mom picked silver, I gave Future Mother-In-Law the same color guidelines, but no black (I didn’t want my mom to be the only person NOT wearing a black dress).  Hope that helps!

ETA: Both my mom & Future Mother-In-Law asked me what color & dress style they should wear.  I really didn’t care that much, so I just came up with the general guidelines above.  I also requested they not wear strapless dresses (because of our church wedding).

Post # 12
5405 posts
Bee Keeper

I do not think either the MOB or MOG should be told what to wear. It’s expected they will avoid white, but their dress should be totally their choice, assuming it’s not inappropriate. 

Post # 13
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My colors are dark purple and silver. My dress is ivory, my mom is walking me down the aisle and is wearing silver, my future mother-in-law is wearing teal. I didn’t set any color scheme for either of them. We’ll see on our wedding say how the colors go together!

Post # 14
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I second all the other bees suggesting you let them choose their own colors! That’s what I did and I think it turned out better than if I’d chosen their dresses. This is a really big day for the moms too so they should love their dresses and feel beautiful as well. Just make sure they’ve seen the exact shades of your wedding colors so they know not to clash :). If they ask for suggestions, I think deep green, blue, or silver/metallic would look great with your colors

Post # 15
23602 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m seconding everything that’s been said here to the idea to let your two mothers choose their own colors.  I think anything should go really nicely against your wedding colors – particularly jewel tones!

Post # 16
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think the parents should be able to choose what they wear.  They aren’t apart of the bridal party and they are adults and pick out their own clothes.  There’s nothing wrong with making suggestions but I think the decision should be up to them.

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