(Closed) Mother of groom attire — rant/advice/idk.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow, just wow. I’m sorry you are having to deal with this. Her comments about your mom were totally out of line and very insensitive. I’m not sure you need to go shopping with her if she really doesn’t want, but I would definitely have Fiance give her hell about her insenstive comments.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Your Future Mother-In-Law is being super insensitive. I would be so upset. If she doesn’t want you to go with her than just let it go.

To answer your question, our Moms did not coordinate with each other or the party. I just wanted them to be comfortable. Our colors were Eggplant and Gold and here’s what the Mom’s wore. My Mom is in the middle and DH’s Mom and Step-Mom are on the outsides.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am sorry she is saying this, however MOB, MOG usually can wear whatever color they want as long as it is not white.  It does not have to match the bridal party. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

She sounds difficult. And good on you for controling yourself when she made the mother comments. I think I could hold my composure the first time she said something, thinking maybe she didn’t mean it but the second time and any other time after that I’d be telling her she’s welcome to stay home on that day if she can’t exercise a little sensitivity, a bride’s wedding day is tough without a mom. Shame on her.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I do think she’s being insensitive, but I never thought the moms were supposed to coordinate… they’re just not supposed to wear white. I have heard before that the groom’s mother should let the MOB pick her dress first (just to ensure they don’t end up in the same color or something). My husband’s mom wore brown… which didn’t “go” at all, but she felt pretty in it, so I was happy!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@Kant: Your Future Mother-In-Law is out of line. Let her wear whatever she wants.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh wow… I would be so mad… Kudos to you for not yelling at her! I am not sure I would have been able to hold my tongue for her speaking that way about my mother or grandmother. I would also feel soooooo rejected. Like wow!

But… to give her the benefit of the doubt – maybe she is sensitive about her weight and clothes and shopping? Some people have weeeeeird triggers.

Since you have stated, it doesn’t really matter all THAT much to you, be the bigger person and let go. She obviously has some issues and may not know how to effectively communicate so she does what many people do-get defensive and sometimes agressive.

(((hugs))) Hope it all works out!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She is WAY out of line and super rude. IDK why MIL’s always have to be such pains! 🙂

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