Mother of groom dress dilemma

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Let her wear what she wants.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Let it go.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Agree with pp’s.  Its not worth making a fuss over.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

She is not Decor. She doesn’t have to match it. None of your other guests are going to match it or if they do it’s by happenstance.

Let It Go. She looks good and likes it. That is the most important part.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Maybe you could steer her towards a formal pants suit?

That way she can more closely match the level of formality yet still be comfortable that its not a dress.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

You said she looks nice in it and she is happy so that is what matters. 

People are not decor that need to fit in with a theme/blend into a background.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My fear for her would be that if she isn’t used to dressing up she might not realize until its too late that she is under dressed.  I would feel awful if she arrived and then felt self conscious because she was underdressed as compared to your mother.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper

Mothers are not part of the wedding party nor obligated to match them, your colors, or each other. Despite how some brides operate it is in fact inappropriate to dictate. They are presumed to be adults who can dress themselves. 

It’s is fine to give her a heads up about what your mom will be wearing.

Contrary to common practice, bridal party and mothers are supposed to match the formality of the wedding. If your wedding is not black tie it may actually be your future mother in law who is dressing more appropriately! 

There’s nothing wrong with a floral pattern. There can be casual floral and dressy floral. Formality can be determined by fabric, length, and or features like sequins and beading.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

What time and where is your wedding? Is it black tie? 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I think you should let her wear it. You said she looks really nice in it. We can’t all be the same, we all the have different personalities and tastes and this is hers. 

Black with blue flowers sounds like it goes a lot better with navy burgundy and gold than mauve lace to be honest. 

I’m sure both dresses have their own charms. Don’t get caught up in this sort of stuff. It’s fine to show her your mums dress but if she is happy then great! 

My wedding is in less than 2 weeks and I did suggest to my dad he prehaps should wear a grey suit or he’d stick out a bit but that is as far as I’ve gone. I never got to meet my Future Mother-In-Law so I’d be happy to have her there in a dressing gown to be honest. 

Don’t sweat the small stuff xx

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Does she have to wear a dress? Would she prefere trousers? That can still be formal. Also how formal is the wedding? I think a knee length dress in general so totally appropriate wedding attire even if they were sundressy. You mil comfort is more important than colours.

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