Post # 1
Yes, my mother is the Mother of the Bride. However, she is also the Mother of the Maid of Honor as well as one of the Groomsmen. I feel sorry for her in this regard because she is having to pay for a lot more than she should be responsible for. Whenever I try to pitch in with the small things like maybe putting a down payment or deposit or buying small things she becomes very upset with me. She tells me that she wants me to save all of that money so that my husband and I can buy a house. I’m so torn between what to do. My parents make very good money, but I feel like there’s too much on her plate. She wants to pay for the entire wedding in cash. So far she has been able to and I don’t see her having any problems with it in the future. I’m just tempted to ask my other bridesmaids if they wouldn’t mind hosting the bridal shower or bachelorette party.
Is anyone else having this issue?
Post # 3
No suggestions but just wondered why your mom is paying for your MOH/GM/siblings things instead of them paying for themselves?
Post # 4
My sister is 17 and my brother is 11. My sister has a job, but doesn’t nearly make enough money to host the bridal shower and isn’t really old enough to host the bachelorette party.
Post # 5
I think that it’s very generous of her to offer to foot the bill – my advice – let her give this gift to you and your Fiance and make sure that she knows how much you truly appreciate her help. She wants to do this for you guys, and knows that it’s expensive to buy a house!! Make sure that you’re saving up for the new house… not wasting money on frivolous things (which you’re probably not doing).
Perhaps you could get your parents a weekend vacay after the wedding so that they, too, can escape and relax.
iF you did want to involve your other BMs, ask them to host the bachelorette party. I co-hosted a bachelorette party with 3 other BMs since the Maid/Matron of Honor was out of town and expecting!