Post # 16
I never wanted to pick out the dress for her, just was curious if she should somewhat coordinate with the color scheme. I have found some other posts with the same question and it seems probably around 60% think that it doesn’t really matter what color the MOB is wearing. So I will keep my lips sealed and encourage her go bright and beautiful =)
Post # 17
I think the coral idea a previous poster would look nice. I wouldn’t stress myself out too much about it. What role are the mothers playing in the ceremony?
Post # 18
My colors are similar to yours, blushes and champagnes…I went shopping with my mom and she ended up getting a sequin navy blue gown that looks just stunning on her, and she’s happy as a clam in it. I think that’s the most important part.
Luckily for you, there isn’t a whole lot that full on clashes with your colors (except obvious culprits like bright red) so I’d let her get what makes her happy. 🙂
Post # 19
I don’t think it’s common, but I have a good enough relationship with my mom and Future Mother-In-Law that I don’t mind being straight up with them and telling them how much it means to me that we color-coordinate for the photos. I mean, how often is everyone dressed up nicely for family photos? That said, I do want them to feel comfortable and feel as though their outfits are flattering on them, so if they don’t want to wear one of my colors, I’m more than willing to work with that.
On that note, why don’t you try and find a bright colored dress with a matching soft accent? Eg. A bright blue dress with a blush pink sash or something like that.
Post # 20
It’s not uncommon to ask the mothers to coordinate. im pretty sure there is a tv show like say yes to the dress specifically for mothers of the bride. Our wedding is a nautical theme so I asked my mom to wear blues or turquoise and she’s totally fine with it. My mother in law is not coordinating, but I felt awkward askimg her to wear a certain color. I guess I’m just more comfortable telling my mom what to do haha.
Post # 21
My mother (and his) are semi coordinated but only so far as not clashing with their corsages and going for a dress that fits the venue and doesn’t match the bridesmaifs exactly. I would not go further than that because typically parents are only in photos with the bride/groom and family, not the full bridal party. Plus I wouldn’t want my mom (or his) confused with a bridesmaid!
Post # 22
my mom, Future Mother-In-Law, and grandma all coordinate with the wedding colors. Both my mom and grandma wanted me to pick their dress (which they both love), and my Future Mother-In-Law asked me to pick a color for her.
None of them had any previous preference for a color or dress, so I didn’t think it was wierd or out of line in any way… And my mom, grandma and I had a blast shopping.
When my brother got married, none of the parents or grandparents matched. My SILs only request was that no one wear the BMs color or the same color as her mom.
When my Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law got married, Future Sister-In-Law picked colors and dresses for the moms.
I don’t think it is an issue of being common/uncommon as much as it might be personal preference. Either way,I think it is only rude or wrong if one of the moms doesn’t agree or want to wear the color,
Post # 23
To answer your question, it’s not common in my circle–just the BM&GM. Your mom’s a grown woman! And samira86:
makes a good point–are you planning on directing what your Mother-In-Law wears as well? How about your dads?
I don’t think that she’ll “stick out” in your wedding photos. And, while I don’t mean to guilt you too hard on this, your mother will not be around forever. In years to come, you will probably want to look at your wedding photos and remember HER for who she was, bright colors and all, not worry about whether or not she ‘matched.’
Post # 24
I would suggest silver — depending on the sheen of the fabric, it could look soft, and will match well with the gold tones in the bridal party.