Post # 1
Bees, did you pick our your MOB dress for your Mom, or did she pick it?
I want my mom to be happy in what she wears so she is picking hers out, and its been a disaster. She wouldn’t talk to me for 24 hours when I politely told her I wasn’t comfortable with the white dress she picked out – I’m not picky at all, but I would like to be the only one in the bridal party wearing white. Now she’s looking at all these long, super formal dark gowns with lots of bling, and I’m afraid to say anything about the fact that it might look strange in our semi casual, summer, outdoor setting.
Do I just let it go and let her do what she wants, even if it’ll stand out and look a little off? Or do I point her in a different direction even though she’s sure to be offended and upset? She reminds me daily that this wedding is not just about me (and I’m a pretty low-key bride who cares more about everyone else being happy with the wedding than myself…)
Post # 3
Also, my Future Mother-In-Law wants to wear short, and my mom wants to wear long. Does it really matter if they match? My mom thinks it does, but I don’t want to make Future Mother-In-Law do what my mom does. Anybody doing a mix of short and long?
Post # 4
1) My mom picked it. But I was really confident in my mom’s tastes and choices. Her dress is great.
2) Your mom and Future Mother-In-Law can wear different lengths…it doesn’t matter.
3) Did you at least like the “style” of the white dress? Maybe she could get a different color in a similar style.
4) That said, I’d let her wear what she wants if it’s not too bananas. Everyone’s going to know that she picked it and not you.
Post # 5
I agree 100% with hotchild-you already tried “helping” her with a different choice and it didn’t go over as well as you would have liked. If you’re not super picky then let mommy be comfortable and feel sexy too 🙂 You seem like a sweetheart of a bride, so don’t let this get to you…just go with the flow!!