Mother of the Bride Dress Drama

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

bostonbee87 :  Does her dress look like a wedding gown? Could it be mistaken for a wedding gown or is it just the silhouette that is similar?

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I do think it’s odd that she chose a dress that’s similar to yours. No, it’s not a huge deal or the end of the world but of all the dresses out there, that’s really all she could find? I think she’s being overdramatic and I think that’s because she knows you have a valid perspective and that she considered you wouldn’t like the dress.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Since you aren’t purchasing the dress you really have no say. Are they really that similar or were you having moment because it wasn’t the one you approved?

Post # 6
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Busy bee

bostonbee87 :  For what it is worth, I woud have been upset too.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’d think it was weird, TBH. But maybe she can wear a bolero or something to alter the top?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I don’t think it’s that big a deal, personally. Sheath is pretty standard for a lot of MOB dresses I’ve seen. She’s obviously not the bride, and I don’t think it detracts from yours, so what’s the big deal?

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

bostonbee87 :  I will give you that yeah she should care what you think. But, she already picked a dress so that ship sailed.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

bostonbee87 :  It sounds like your mom picked a pretty standard style of MOB dress.  Most of them I’ve seen are sheaths and if she is modest like my mom a high-neckline is her default choice.  No one will notice except you. 

After hearing about the white dresses, prom dresses, night club appropriate attire, etc worn by MOBs this isn’t worth the fight.  FWIW, my Mother-In-Law wore slacks to my very small wedding (aka she’s visible in a ton of photos) and life has moved on.  I didn’t even care anymore by the time we got our photos. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

bostonbee87 :  “Please feel free to tell me if I’m being a selfish brat.” — Yeah, kinda. Sorry. This is not a big deal at all and it was passive-aggressive to tell her you’re upset but if she “really liked it” it’s fine. She wouldn’t have bought it if she didn’t like it. How is your life going to be worse because her dress, which sounds like a very standard MOB dress, has a passing similarity to yours? Her wearing the dress doesn’t impact your life whatsoever. You making her feel bad about it impacts both of your lives, negatively. I recommend telling her you’re sorry, you realize now how silly it was, and the dress is lovely.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I do find it a bit odd. It’s odd for the same reason people aren’t supposed to wear white to a wedding– the bride is supposed to stand out from everyone. I DO find it a bit disturbing she hung up on you over it. The fact that you told us to “Please feel free to tell me if I’m being a selfish brat” tells me you’re not. Selfish brats don’t ask if they’re acting like selfish brats, and certainly don’t care if they are behaving that way. Your mom could handle this with a bit more maturity though, if I do say so. I don’t see why it’s a big deal to find another dress in a different style. Easy solution. No need to get emotional over it. 

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