(Closed) Mother of the bride in black?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Traditional me says yes. I mean, it’s 2012 and all, but I wouldn’t really want to see my mom in black on my wedding day. If she feels beautiful, and there isn’t another option, maybe.


I would suggest adding a poll to this. 

Post # 4
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My mom was mostly in black.  It was dress, but the skirt was black.  The top was black with white/crystal beading on it.  She found it at Nordstrom too.  My only requirement is that she felt beuatiful in it.  She loves black, so it was not surprising she was in black.  But to be fair, my bridesmaids all got to choose their own black dresses and it was a fairly formal affair, so it all worked.  I’m not sure that summer/outdoor/rustic wedding would be a good backdrop for a black gown– so maybe it’ll depend more on your feel of the wedding?

Post # 5
938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would not be suprised if my mom wore black.  That’s just what he normal “fancy clothes” are.  Actually, for me and my sisters as well. Wel usually wear black formal clothes.  We just joked about this the other day because my sisters Future Father-In-Law found out we (my mom, 2 sisters, and I) are all color-blind. and he said “oh, is that why you guys were black and white a lot, so you don’t mismatch your clothes?”  He was totally kidding, but we all paused and were like “huh, maybe!”

Anyway, my point is, that’s my mom’s style, so it wouldn’t bother me at all.  I don’t place any superstitions or meanins on any colors.  My mom will probably wear a pant suit as well.  I haven’t seen her in a dress since i was probably 4 or 5 years old.  she’s just not comfortable in dresses. And that’s fine by me too. I just want my mom to be happy and comfortable.  

Post # 6
4594 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I dont like people wearing black at weddings.  It reminds me of a funeral.  But I wouldn’t say it’s “wrong”.  It’s a personal preference, if you’re fine with it and she’s fine with it then go for it!

Post # 7
5785 posts
Bee Keeper

Of course she can wear black! Let her wear whatever she’s most comfortable wearing.

Post # 8
14049 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If it’s a night wedding and more formal, I’d say okay.  Otherwise, I’d say it’s taboo for the MOB to wear black, because it looks like she’s in mourning. 

Post # 9
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My mom and I actually talked about this last night. I asked her what she had thought about wearing telling her she of course didn’t have to match our colors. She then told me she thought she might wear black. I was taken by surprise because I didn’t think she wanted to wear black. I think I let my surprise and disappointment show because I think I hurt her feelings about wearing black. 

I apologized to her and told her if that’s what she wanted to wear and as long as she feels beautiful then that’s fine. She then told me we have a little bit and she’s not too concerned right now. I still feel bad I told her I expected her to wear another color. =(

Post # 10
1936 posts
Buzzing bee

Wedding are getting less and less traditional when it comes to colours. Black bridesmaid dresses are extremely popular and many people do it. Black and white themes are also very popular. I’m not sure about the religious aspect, but I think MOB in black is just fine.

Post # 11
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My mom will most likely be wearing a black dress. She looks awesome in black and I want her to feel comfortable and beautiful.

Only worry if your mom busts out a white, full length evening gown. Now that would be something to stress over :p

Post # 12
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My mom is wearing black too. I’ve already had so many people making comments to her about it, that she sat me down to ask if it was okay. I told her “mom I love you so much for asking me and please don’t let what other people think about it bother you, if I’m okay with it and you love the dress then by all means, black it is!”

Post # 13
6994 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

My mom wore black! It had a little beading but nothing crazy – my bridesmaids were also in black though so it looked really nice together. Black is classic – i don’t think you can go wrong with it.

Post # 14
33 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

There is nothing wrong with MOB wearing black if you both don’t have a problem. For my wedding I was a little pickier on color palette because it was a fall wedding and the black would of been to harsh with all the other colors plus she has white hair. And of course if you have color dresses for your bridesmaids you can always incorporate some color in the form of scawl/jacket with the black dress. But if you two love it as is go for it.

Post # 15
1812 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

If your mother got some amazing accessories to make the dress “happy” I wouldn’t see a problem.  She could go for a gorgeous jewel colour, with a show-stopping facinator in her hair and it would in no way look like a mourning dress.

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