MemberIf you have 8 bridesmaids that pay for your entire shower $350 each(which is extremely extremely generous)…
What would the mother of the brides gift be to the bride?
MemberThat’s certainly very generous of the bridesmaids to host such a lavish shower. But I don’t see why the cost of the shower would determine how much the MOB, or any other guest, spends on a shower gift.
MemberMy thought is if the bride is paying for the entire wedding herself and the mother of the brides hotel room for two nights as well and her girls were so generous the generostiy would go hand in hand???
Member@wedwedwed123: i’m not sure how one has to do with the other.
what if BMs are all doctor and lawyers and can afford that, but MOB is on a fixed income?
what if MOB is paying for the entire wedding?
there are too many different scenarios and one doesn’t have to do with the other, the BMs chose to spend that.
Member@wedwedwed123: You can certainly be generous to your daughter, but I would buy something that fits in with what other people are gifting for the shower. It might look a little silly and attention grabbing if you gifted her with a Miele Built in Espresso Staion when the other guests were giving coffee mugs.
You can always give them more extravagent gifts or a cheque in private .
Member@julies1949: The average gift from guests was $100… Very generous…
MemberWhat if the mother of the bride paid for her son’s entire baby shower over a $1,000 and then gave the daughter $150 in gifts?
Member@wedwedwed123: Are you the bride and not happy with the gift from your Mom? Clearly you are not asking for advice as the shower as already happened.
MemberAsking for opinions… Bridesmaids are definetly nowhere near doctors or lawyers…
The bride works two jobs and goes to grad school for last five years and is paying for own wedding.
MemberYeah, I’m not seeing what the bridesmaids spent and what the MOB spends on a gift have to do with one another?
Member@wedwedwed123: I assume you are unhappy with how much your mother gave you. Just because she spent 1000 at your brother’s baby shower doesn’t mean she needs to give you 1000 dollars for your wedding because you have treated her lavishly. Yes, you were generous, but you shouldn’t have expected anything in return by doing all that.
By the way, I would consider $150 in gifts very generous.
MemberI can maybe comprehend you being jealous of the fact that your mother spent more on your brother than she did on you, which is a bit silly I think but at least makes some sense, but what does the amount that the bridesmaids spend on your shower have anything to do with your mother’s shower gift to you? You mentioned that the average gift was $100 and that she spent $150, that’s considerably more than the average gift so I’m not sure what the issue is?
MemberI have been in several weddings and to a million showers and the MOB always goes above and beyond I just thought that was the norm…
MemberThe highest price ANYTHING I got at either of my bridal showers was $150. And it was from my mom.
Are you talking about your own bridal shower here? I think you need to stop seeing dollar signs and be glad that your friends and family hosted and attended a wonderful party honoring you.
Also, a $2800 bridal shower? That’s bananas. I’m awfully glad I wasn’t a bridesmaid for that wedding.
Member@wedwedwed123 I am really confused as to what you are asking? Every bride and MOB situation is differnt. My mom threw my wedding, wouldn’t let my bridesmaids give any money for the shower except for them bringning an app and 2 bottles of wine (even though the invite said they were throwing it), and still surprised me with my wedding shoes (Christian Louboutin’s) and pretty lingerie as a shower gift.
I also have a friend whose bridesmaids paid for the whole shower and her mother gave the bride a pasta pot.
This is an issue that only you can resolve by talking to your mom! Good luck!
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