(Closed) Mother of the Bride's Siblings did not attend Minnesota reception

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorry! Time is the best healer as well as forgiving and forgetting.

Relying on people to make you happy or hoping they will be fair ( treat your kids as you treat theirs) will drive you crazy!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m sorry-that stinks!  But I think it beats having ungrateful or obnoxious guests?!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Cathy Silverberg:  I am sorry but you just have to get over it and let it go. Not knowing their financial backgrounds/lifestyle etc maybe they reacted like they did because all they got was an invite to the reception. Maybe they see that as rude? That they weren’t good enough as family to be invited to the ceremony/DW but good enough to to come to a party and bring a gift? This could be confounded if other relatives were invited and them not.

I also think it is unfair of you to judge what is a good enough reason or not! I know your feelings are hurt but your daughters wedding is not going to be the number 1 priority in everyones life.

I also have a question- how early did the invites get sent out? I find this is a common complaint from Destination Wedding brides- no rsvp’s because they send them out so early and people miss the RSVP date.

 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

As a fellow Minnesotan, I think it depends on where you live in the state.  If you are from a small town in rual MN a lot of people just don’t get destination weddings and then a at home reception.  My home town is like that small town and mainly very traditional when it comes to weddings. 

Now if you live more in the Twin Cities metro area it is more widely accepted and done.

It sounds like that your relatives are of older generation and probably just don’t get why your daughter had a at home reception and a destination wedding.

I would chalk it up as let by gones by be by gones and let it go. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Cathy Silverberg:  Well in that case yes they were rude not to RSVP especially since you chased them up.  Thanks fro the extra info! They are probably just p*ssed that it was a Destination Wedding. Can’t please everyone!

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