(Closed) Mother of the groom dress

posted 12 years ago in Family
Post # 3
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It sucks that she waited so long to get a dress, but with your wedding so close do you really think you can talk her into looking for another dress?  Or could you put the burden on your plate of trying to find one?  If not, she’ll probably be wearing the blue. 

Post # 4
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

Don’t worry about it… there is a difference between color coordinating and being ridiculous about it, and I’m sure you don’t want to cross that line! 

Post # 5
90 posts
Worker bee

Haha, I have the opposite problem.  I am a student of the "No one wears white or any version of white except the bride." and my Mother-In-Law is wearing a dress that she first called "champagne," and when my husband to be told her that was tacky, she change the name of the color to "beige".  The way I look at it with that one is that she is the one who will look foolish, not me.  By The Way, my dress is ivory with gold, so it’s not even like mine is bright white and will look different.  Oh yeah, and hers has gold in it too from what she says.  Hmmmmm…………don’t even know what to say about that, haha.  But I’m just letting it go.  Also, my wedding is on Nov. 8, and I told my Maid/Matron of Honor she could wear whatever she wanted (I have no other attendants), and I encouraged her to pick something in the fall color family.  She, too, picked royal blue.  Not really a fall color, but WHO CARES!  She likes it, it’s a very cute dress….she said I could borrow it (bonus!)……and she may be the only bridesmaid/MOH ever who actually LOVES her dress!  Also, I don’t know what your Mother-In-Law looks like, but my mom who is overweight wasn’t LOOKING for a slate gray dress, but that’s what she found that fit her well and didn’t make her look bigger.  Sometimes, if you have a particular body shape, you have to go with what fits you.  I’m tall and skinny but with big hips, so I know I’m limited a lot of the time too.  Well after that long-winded response, I’d say just breathe and relax.  If she looks "out of place" in pictures, people will blame her anyway, not you, haha.  Good luck!!!!!  And Congrats!

Post # 6
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I feel like…it stinks, but you have more to worry about than what she’s wearing.  Plus, better not to open the can of worms?  Just know that the things you can control are to your liking – making it your dream day – and this won’t ruin it.  She won’t even be in all of the pics!


Congrats to you!

Post # 7
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Unless it’s royal blue with a slit "up to there" and cleavage "down to there" I think you’re ok. I saw a Mother of the Groom who wore a dress that looked like it belonged on "Dancing With the Stars." Nothing could be worse than that.

Post # 8
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Honestly, I think that the blue will be a nice complementing color to the rest of your palette. You have all of those lovely warm colors, so a punch of blue will be lovely in photos, which is really the only place where your family’s attire should matter. I promise you this: your guests aren’t going to look at your Future Mother-In-Law and think, "Gah! That blue! It RUINS the decor!" They’re not even going to be paying attention to her, when you’re around and glowing with brideyness (seriously, brides glow – it’s a weird natural phenomenon).

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Post # 9
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

Don’t stress about it.  She won’t be in a million of the pictures and YOU and your future hubbie will be more the center of attention than anyone else.  My Mother-In-Law wore eggplant to my aqua and pale orange wedding!!

Post # 10
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

In the nicest way possible, get over it.  Really, it’s not a big deal and unless you specifically told her "you must get a dress this, this, or this color" (which actually is a little bridezilla-ish) you don’t have any ground to stand on.

Plus, all your guests will not have a specific colored dress or suite so all colors will be "represented" anyways!

Just go with the flow, don’t let the little things bother you and HAVE FUN!!!!

Post # 11
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It may seem like a big deal, but the only place it will ever matter is the family portraits.  Unless all the male family members are also coordinated, it shouldn’t be too bad.  In any case, even if the group shots don’t look right, those may not be the pics you end up using, so take a deep breath and let it go. 

As others have mentioned, it’s not worth it.  It’s very easy to get caught up in the planning and the details and the color scheme and forget the bigger picture.  As long as your Mother-In-Law likes the dress and it’s not inappropriately revealing, it will all work out.  Don’t let this detail get you down, especially so close to the wedding.

Years down the line, you’ll likely not remember that she wore royal blue. 

Post # 12
6 posts
  • Wedding: February 2010

My cousin’s OWN stepmom wore a WHITE STRAPLESS A-LINE dress with a matching wrap! Lol so take a few breaths and just think about that everytime you think about her blue dress. Lotsa luck!

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