(Closed) Mother of the Groom issues (multiple in here)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

jmmcd :  Since she doesn’t live close, can the sign have an unfortunate accident, like her son backing over it out of the garage, or something?  (Closer to the wedding, so she doesn’t make another, lol).

How many people are you inviting to the rehearsal dinner?  Is it just the Wedding Party and Significant Others?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

oh girl, vent away. mmm. 

as far as the not so crafty crafty diy project, maybe find one on etsy that matches what you want, buy one and completely lie and convince your MOG that she made it and loved how it turned out…. lol

as far as the add on invites, just lie again and tell her that you have already ordered them and have run out and have no more to mail.  or you are gonna have to be honest and tell her that your budget doesnt allow for anymore randoms.

and for the rehearsal dinner, mom probably has a fixed budget so maybe plan to pay for the half  she cant afford.

so my advice basically is to lie and spend money…. not really good advice. Sorry.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

lknatbrghtsde :  Soooo funny.  so funny.  I love it, and would try that!

Plan A. Convince her she did it, what a fine job she did

Plan B. run over it. 

Love it all.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Definitely do not use that diy board. I like the idea of accidentally on purpose destroying it. 

Next time she texts you with an address, could your Fiance text her back with how much she owes you for them to be invited? Just kidding, it’s more than just the money obviously. Please do not give in. She won’t thank you or appreciate it in any way. I have yet to hear any Mother-In-Law anywhere say how nice it was of her DIL to invite so many guests for the Mother-In-Law. They all seem to feel entitled.

You’re going to have to pay the rest of the cost for the rehearsal dinner. Just have your Fiance tell her that there is nowhere that charges only $10 a plate so that you two will pick up the difference, but he should say it nicely and still thank her for her contribution, even if you are right (which you are!), just be pleasant and get through it. And once you are married you probably won’t want to be close with her at all! Her loss. 

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

$250 won’t get you that far. I’d find somewhere you like and can afford and contribute her 250 towards it. 

 

Can an you fix the sign? I’m sentimental, it would mean a lot to her to have it there, I’m sure. When she sends it can you jazz it up?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal

Now I’m dying to see this DIY board and the inspiration. I like the idea to run it over 😂

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Yep, accidentally on purpose misplace or destroy the board. 

Can Fiance simple give a firm “no” to any more guest requests and you not send invites? That’s what I would be doing. 

And yeah, I think just graciously accept her small contribution to the rehearsal dinner and discreetly make up the difference. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

jmmcd :  Typically, the Wedding Rehearsal is just for the wedding party and spouses, so that is fine to include your Aunt and Uncle, as it is a thank you.  

I have seen on the WB, where all the out of town guests are also invited as well, and that is too much In My Humble Opinion.  

I think Beegritte :  gave the correct response, graciously accept her contribution and discreetly make up the difference.  FWIW- I don’t think my Father-In-Law covered even that.  I think my poor mom & dad ended up paying, knowing Father-In-Law, but I couldn’t be certain.  

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I feel like your fiance needs to step in and talk with her about adding too many people to the guest list. It is his mom, so he should be the one fighting the big battles. Who is paying for the wedding? I know t’s hard but you just have to stick up for what you and your fiance want. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Issue 1 is kind of cute.  Reminds me of how my grandmother would always send me a bunch of stuff that I couldn’t use or couldn’t wear but I’d accept it because it would make her happy to give me stuff.  

Issue 2 and 3 I think can be less dramatic if everyone was just honest with one another.  Tell her we have no more room for invites and ask her flat out how much her budget is for the rehearsal dinner. 

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