- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
Three weeks ago my boyfriends parents had invited us to go to Costa Rica for a vacation in the middle of March. We couldn’t decline that chance of a lifetime so we said yes!! We’ve been dating for over three years and the topic of marriage has come up (many times), but given the current situation with the recession it has put a wedding or even an engagement ring on hold. While eating lunch with his parents after getting our passport applications done I had an epiphany! I stated that my boyfriend and I should get married and needless to say everything unraveled from there. We decided the next day that it was the perfect opportunity to take that next step in our lives and it’s everything we ever wanted. We’re going to get married on the beach at sunset, just perfect! I called my mother to tell her the news and boy was she pissed. She stated she was dissappointed in me and mad because she can’t be there. It really hurt, but I kept going forward with my decision and tried keeping her involved as much as possible. I asked her to go dress shopping with me and she said no, then I asked her to go to the fitting and she acted like she wasn’t even there. I got no response from her, no smile, no tears, no joy, nothing!! It was so upsetting I thought I looked so ugly. Granted I invited my boyfriends mom and sister and my sister to come along but if I would’ve told my mother that they were coming she would have declined and been even more pissed off. The woman doing the alterations called my future mother in law mom and that really put even more fuel on the fire.
I understand that she’s upset but to go to this extent of not just being happy for me. She’s being pure selfish, she’s thinking about herself. I talked to her yesterday and she states she’s so jealous that she can’t be there (understandable) but she’s watched both my other sisters walk down the isle and watched both of them go through divorce, what good does that do me. I also stated that if I were to get married in the courthouse by god everything would be okay!! Oh the story of my life with my mother has been so drama filled I can’t do it anymore. I talked to my sister yesterday after my arguement with my mother and she stated that I still need to keep inviting my mother along. The rudeness and selfishness that she has showed me throughout this whole ordeal so far makes me have so much anxiety at just the thought of inviting her because I know her so well she’ll make it uncomfortable for me. She’s the woman you always have to please, if I don’t pay enough attention to her she gets upset!! She’s talked to a bunch of other women and they agree with her! I don’t know what to do anymore.
Sorry so long! I just wanted someone (I don’t know) advice or comments, so maybe it’ll help me understand her a little more or help me feel like I’m not doing anything wrong.