- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I’m going to explain this as best I can. Recently, my mother and I spend a week together (her in our 2 bedroom apartment with no break from each other except my 20 minute morning run!) and it ultimately led to a huge argument (which needed to happen and that’s not my problem). Here is my problem:
The week before our wedding my parents are coming in from out of town (1200 miles away). At first I was fine with them staying with us for the week. However, my mother has turned into an overbearing control freak and has done nothing but tell me what I am doing wrong with the wedding (she apparently isn’t a fan of a rustic theme) and I am at my wits end. If they end up staying with us the entire week before, I may end up having an even worse fight with her.
I am the kind of person that likes my quiet relaxation time after work, as does my FH, and if I am going to be coming home that week to my mother breathing down my neck I will surely snap. So my question is, if I already told them it was fine to stay with us, what are my options??? Please don’t tell me to suck it up and deal with it because that’s what I’ve been doing and it’s only making me more stressed (I lost my voice for 4 days because of the stress she has already put on me)! Let’s also remember that FH and I live in an APARTMENT where the spare bedroom is going to be full of all the wedding stuff and they’d have to sleep on the living room futon anyways.
***UPDATE***My friend told me that the Monday-Thursday before I should send them on a mini vaca to the mountains as my wedding gift to them and pay for their lodging. My father would LOVE this, my mom would be very upset that she isn’t around to “help” (i.e. control) with wedding stuff. This is the only option I have come up with besides asking them to stay in a hotel when I already said they could stay with us. I don’t want to offend them, but I need my sanity that week! HELP!