(Closed) Mother wants a ceremony – I don't.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What do you do?

You go to the courthouse, get married then have a party. I don’t mean to be insensitive to your mother but she’s bullying you by getting upset. If you do have the wedding of HER dreams just so she can see you walk down the aisle you’ll be miserable. The price of giving in to her wishes isn’t worth the stress of something you don’t even want in the first place. I know it may be hard to see her upset but you need to tell her this isn’t what you want and she needs to back off with the emotional blackmail.

Post # 4
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1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly it sounds like your mom is using emotional blackmail.  Don’t let her manipulate you.  Your ceremoney is about you and your partner, no one else.  Have the marriage at the courthouse and then have a party.  Its your wedding!

Post # 5
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with the others.  Your mom is not getting married, you are!  Offer her the witness role so she can sign your marriage license.  Then have a party later.  I think you would enjoy doing something out of emotional blackmail.

Post # 6
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3786 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@MrsPanda:  You do what you want and don’t be held hostage by her emotional blackmail.  She is being ridiculous.  If it were my mother I would show her this thread to hopefully give her some perspective about how she is behaving.

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