Post # 1
I am having problems trying to help my mom think of a dress. There are several factors:
1. She is deathly afraid of being cold (her health is quite poor), and my wedding is in late autumn. Therefore, she would like to wear long sleeves + very high neckline + shawl. I have also suggested to her that she can wear a long skirt/dress (and add thick tights underneath).
2. She is very self conscious about her body (tiny shoulders/chest but big hips and she has a tummy).
She is quite picky in general about being comfortable. I just feel bad that based on her criteria, all my aunts and other female relatives will surely look better than her (since they will be wearing real dresses). My mom sounds like she wants to stick to a thick sparkly top and a long black skirt.
Does anyone have any ideas for how I can work around her restrictions for wardrobe to make her a beautiful mother?
(She is also very against make up so she likely wont want to wear make up. The same goes for hair…she wont be getting hair done.)
Our venue will be at a hotel ballroom so it is quite formal. (Not extremely formal but still formal).
Post # 3
I’ll bet she’ll be a beautiful mother regardless of what she’s wearing
My mom never does her hair, doesn’t wear makeup, and she’s shaped very much like an apple She has a great deal of health problems, so I don’t give a damn what she wears as long as she comes.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@ANGELaaimt: +1. Weddings are emotional days for moms too – my mom cried a lot, and was on her feet all day running around – so the most important thing is that your mom is comfortable. I’m sure she’ll be happy and glowing no matter what she picks out to wear!
Post # 5
Check out these longs skirts and pants. She could wear something like these with a top and a longish jacket or even a really pretty soft cardigan like cashmere. That would both keep her warm and slenderize her hips. Who knows maybe she’ll even let you but a bit of mascara and lipstick on her for the big day. 🙂
Post # 6
Maybe take a look at Tadashi Shoji. I feel like he makes a lot of dresses that fit your criteria and that are also extremely flattering and comfortable.
Post # 7
@OctBride-2012: Thanks for the link! Unfortunately the skirt that I had my eye on here is only in XS….but now I have more ideas in mind so I will continue my search for her!
Thanks for reminding me that the important thing is for her to be happy that day! Yes, being comfortable is definitely important!
I am sorry to hear about your mom’s health. You are very right— I am just happy that she is coming and I wont stress too much about her outfit (compared to other ladies that night.)
Post # 8
She has health issues and she wants to be warm and comfortable – and she will be beautiful no matter what. A nice pair of earrings, a necklace, a corsage, even nice hair clips can give her a little more ‘oomph.’ But more than anything, her comfort is important and it doesn’t matter if other people are dressed more nicely than she is.
My mom’s wearing stretch dress pants, a sparkly tank top and a small overcoat – so nothing ornate. She’s comfortable and she’s happy.
Post # 9
@RexManningDay: Thanks so much for the suggestion!! 🙂
Post # 10
@beedazzling: She could probably have a skirt made for a very reasonable price. That way she could get an elastic waist and fabric with some stretch, which would be very comfortable for her. 🙂
Post # 11
My mother had a dress, but did her own hair and makeup. She had been working all day setting things up and geting my nieces ready. She ended up at the venue in a sweater and jeans. She didn’t have time to change before the ceremony. She was still beautiful because she was my mother.
She changed afterwards for the reception, but it wouldn’t have mattered even if she hadn’t. I only wanted her to feel comfortable and happy.
Post # 12
@HeathenSwan: I am so touched by what you wrote….thanks for reminding me of what really matters…. having her there for me and being loved by her!! You are such a great daughter!!
Thanks for the idea!
Post # 13
@beedazzling: Thank you for your well wishes! Good luck on your search I’m sure everything will work out wonderfully!!
Post # 15
If I tried to make my mother wear make-up, she probably wouldn’t come to the wedding. So, I don’t care…because she is my mom, and her being there is FAR more important than some lipstick or whatever. Who cares? And please don’t base beauty on makeup and dressy clothing. Are you going to teach your future children that beauty is based on material things and outward appearances?
Post # 16
I’m sure she will look beautiful no matter what 🙂 Try asking her if she’d like to get her hair curled or something on the wedding day, maybe at the same salon you’re at? Sometimes it helps to be a mother daughter thing:)