Post # 1
I want to have a father-daugther dance at my reception but my fiancé doesn’t want a mother/son dance. I agree with him that it’s not really their style. He’s from a foreign country and this will be her first time in the USA and she’s not very outgoing so I agree with him, and don’t want her to be uncomfortable. The whole father daugher and mother son dance thing is not a tradition in his culture anyway.
Is it acceptable to have a father daughter dance and then a bride/groom first dance, and skip the mother/son dance? I seem to be under the impression that the mother/son dance is a sort of new thing, anyways.
Post # 2
I’ve been to many weddings that had a father/daughter dance, and less than half of them had a mother/son dance. If your fiance and his mom don’t want to do the dance, I doubt anyone will think it’s odd to skip it.
Post # 3
biene : Your idea is fine. There’s nothing wrong with doing a father/daughter dance, then bride & groom dance. If mother/son dances aren’t common in their culture, nobody will miss it. And I think you’re right — I’m sure moms and sons have been dancing at weddings forever, but making it a special spotlight thing is fairly new.
Post # 4
I think that’s totally fine. People probably won’t even notice you didn’t have a mother/groom dance and honestly, it’s your wedding. If it’s going to make the groom or his mom uncomfortable, then don’t do it. It’s supposed to be a happy day!
Post # 5
Thank you all. That’s sort of what I thought but I haven’t been to too many weddings. Certainly at least half the guests won’t notice since they’re from his country, where all these dances in the spotlight, including first dance, are not a thing. We’ll have a father/daugher dance and then I will be passed to the groom for our first dance and it will be happily ever after.
Post # 6
I’m planning on doing a combined mother/son father/daughter dance where we both dance to one song at the same time! I love my dad but I know I’ll feel more comfortable if FI is dancing at the same time with his mom. However if your fiance doesn’t want it at all, then skip it! It’s your wedding 🙂
Post # 7
We combined them since DH is very shy. My dad and I danced first then DH and his mother joined us 45 seconds into the song. Then 30 second later our bridal party joined in with their children. It worked very well and that series of photos are some of my favorites.
Post # 8
My FH is insisting on a Mother son dance, but they are absolutely not required whatsoever. Try to remember that people aren’t going to remember the details of your day. They are going to remember if they had a good time or not
Post # 9
You don’t have to do anything you don’t want.
Post # 10
you can do whatever you want!
both of our fathers passed away before our weddings.
i did a fast dance with my mom and DH skipped dancing with his mom as he didn’t want to and she had recently had a stroke.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
biene : Dh is estranged from his parents, but my dad and I still did our dance. I say go for it. Whatever works for you situation!
Post # 12
We just did a father-daughter dance and then my dad passed me to my husband for the bride-groom dance. DH is not close with his mother, and doesn’t like being the centre of attention, and didn’t want to dance with her but no one took any notice at all
Post # 13
Yep, do whatever you want! Watching lots of dances can get kind of boring for the guests anyway.
Post # 14
My dad is super shy so we didn’t do a father-daughter dance. Plus it’s not something we do in our culture anyways, so I don’t feel like I’ve missed out on anything. Whereas my (now) husband did have a mother-son dance. Right after our first dance he stayed on the dance floor and his mom joined him. It was no biggy and no one asked any questions. 🙂
Post # 15
It isn’t a must, just something to do if you want to. At my niece’s wedding last week there was a mother/son dance because both of them wanted to do it. But my niece’s father is dead, so there was no dance for her. She could have danced with one of her older brothers, or her late father’s brother, but why force it?