Mother/groom dance – necessary?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’ve been to many weddings that had a father/daughter dance, and less than half of them had a mother/son dance. If your fiance and his mom don’t want to do the dance, I doubt anyone will think it’s odd to skip it.

Post # 3
8871 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

biene :  Your idea is fine. There’s nothing wrong with doing a father/daughter dance, then bride & groom dance. If mother/son dances aren’t common in their culture, nobody will miss it. And I think you’re right — I’m sure moms and sons have been dancing at weddings forever, but making it a special spotlight thing is fairly new.

Post # 4
42 posts
  • Wedding: August 2017

I think that’s totally fine. People probably won’t even notice you didn’t have a mother/groom dance and honestly, it’s your wedding. If it’s going to make the groom or his mom uncomfortable, then don’t do it. It’s supposed to be a happy day!

Post # 6
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’m planning on doing a combined mother/son father/daughter dance where we both dance to one song at the same time! I love my dad but I know I’ll feel more comfortable if Fiance is dancing at the same time with his mom. However if your fiance doesn’t want it at all, then skip it! It’s your wedding 🙂

Post # 7
863 posts
Busy bee

We combined them since Darling Husband is very shy.  My dad and I danced first then Darling Husband and his mother joined us 45 seconds into the song. Then 30 second later our bridal party joined in with their children.  It worked very well and that series of photos are some of my favorites.

Post # 8
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My FH is insisting on a Mother son dance, but they are absolutely not required whatsoever.  Try to remember that people aren’t going to remember the details of your day.  They are going to remember if they had a good time or not

Post # 9
2005 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want. 

Post # 10
9208 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

you can do whatever you want!

both of our fathers passed away before our weddings.

i did a fast dance with my mom and Darling Husband skipped dancing with his mom as he didn’t want to and she had recently had a stroke.



Post # 11
2604 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

biene :  Dh is estranged from his parents, but my dad and I still did our dance. I say go for it. Whatever works for you situation!

Post # 12
30 posts
  • Wedding: May 2017

We just did a father-daughter dance and then my dad passed me to my husband for the bride-groom dance. Darling Husband is not close with his mother, and doesn’t like being the centre of attention, and didn’t want to dance with her but no one took any notice at all

Post # 13
3884 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Yep, do whatever you want! Watching lots of dances can get kind of boring for the guests anyway.

Post # 14
10 posts
  • Wedding: October 2017

My dad is super shy so we didn’t do a father-daughter dance. Plus it’s not something we do in our culture anyways, so I don’t feel like I’ve missed out on anything. Whereas my (now) husband did have a mother-son dance. Right after our first dance he stayed on the dance floor and his mom joined him. It was no biggy and no one asked any questions. 🙂

Post # 15
2429 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

It isn’t a must, just something to do if you want to. At my niece’s wedding last week there was a mother/son dance because both of them wanted to do it. But my niece’s father is dead, so there was no dance for her. She could have danced with one of her older brothers, or her late father’s brother, but why force it?

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