Post # 1
A friend was able to get tickets to “Motherhood Out Loud”…a show about being a mother. She knows that I can’t have kids and how sad it makes me.
Several hours of sitting and listening to women doing monologues about motherhood sounds like a horrible time to me. She knows my situation and still insists it will “be fun”. I don’t want to ruin my friendship, but I also don’t want to be crying after the performance.
Post # 2
That seems a bit insensitive, or she just has no clue and thinks it would be fun for you. I don’t think you would risk ruining your relationship by not going. Surely she can go with someone else. Just say you already have plans and can’t go.
Post # 3
lauralaura123 : You can’t ruin the friendship. She already did.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
I wouldn’t go and just remember you didn’t ruin your friendship she did that my disrespecting you
Post # 5
andygirl : unfortunately I told her already that the reason I’d rather not go is it would make me super sad that I will never be part of that motherhood experience.
Post # 6
lauralaura123 : She shoud totally understand that! I am sorry, if she still insists that you go, she is heartless and not your friend. I would never do that to any of my friends. I am sorry she is treating you like that.
Post # 7
andygirl : I was thinking that probably I am being over sensitive and that I should just go and do my best to have a good time and not sulk. I don’t know the particulars of the show, other than it is monologues about being a mother.
Post # 8
Don’t go. My friend took me to see that Alicia Vikander Michael Fassbender movie about her miscarriages and how they stole a child from a woman, the scenes were so raw and real that they hit too close to me (not the stealing of a child lol!) I was miserable the entire movie and wouldn’t watch it again. Please save yourself the heartache and have another friend go with her or she can sell the ticket. Sometimes people just don’t think and they don’t mean to hurt us. You can always plan another theatre date with her but for something better and not about motherhood.
Post # 9
lifeisbeeutiful : I absolutely cannot deal with miscarriage/abortion scenes in movies. I have to leave the room.
Post # 10
lauralaura123 : you are not being oversensitive. You won’t ruin a true friendship over this, so don’t force yourself. You don’t need to know the particulars if the show to know you would feel horrible.
Post # 11
lauralaura123 : you have every right to define what you would enjoy doing and to tell your friend that while you appreciate her asking you and thinking of you, this is not a topic that you wish to devote your free time to, and you are sure there are others who would enjoy it with her and deserve her thoughtfulness (lol) as well.
I doubt she’s being deliberately mean if she’s your friend, but sometimes people want what they want so much (she wants you, her friend, to accompany her to a show she wants to see) that they try to ride over their friends/family. As annoying as this is, if it’s not constant, it;s a good opportunity to stand up for yourself and just say no politely.
Sorry about your health challenges, bee.
Post # 12
lauralaura123: Just dont go. If she can’t understand why this is painfull for you she is a very bad friend.
Also, your mental health > any friendship
Post # 13
Don’t force yourself to watch something that will cause you pain. A true friend will put your feelings above a show, and she can simply ask someone else. You have already told her the truth, so tell her you have thought about it and you are going to decline the ticket. If this ruins your friendship with her, was she that good a friend to begin with?
Post # 14
Don’t go. Either she’s a good friend and will find someone else to go with without this being a big deal or she’s someone you should be cutting out anyway.