Post # 1
Once you and your husband become parents, do you think it’s acceptable for your Mother-In-Law to request that your husband spend Mothers Day with her?
Who should get your husband’s attention on Mother’s Day – you or your MIL?
Post # 3
sorry, but i’m not even a mom (yet), and i have a very strong opinion about this. just like when a woman is married, her husband takes priority over every other man in her life, when a man is married his wife is his first priority. would you spend father’s day with your father after having kids, and not be with your husband?
maybe go and see her, or you can all go to lunch together, or he can send her flowers, call her, but the whole day? and leave you alone with the kids? no way, jose.
Post # 4
Yeah, my Mother-In-Law just told Darling Husband that she wanted to take him on a vacation for mothers day this year. Just him, her, and his sister. So they are going to take the weekend and go down to Florida (1,000 miles away).
I’m not a mother yet, but I will be 33 weeks pregnant on Mother’s Day and I was not happy about this news.
Post # 5
I think a combination of both is good. Really your mom doesn’t stop being your mom just because you’re a parent. Honestly, I probably wouldn’t be that upset about the trip. Next year can be your special first mothers day once you’ve had the baby.
Post # 6
@kelly105: Uh this would not fly. She needs to cut the cord. Don’t get me wrong we go see both of our mom’s on mothers day and do the lunch thing, but there is no way my Mother-In-Law would expect my Darling Husband to spend the day with her, let alone a weekend, and DEF not while I was pregnant!
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Nnn, I think that I more empathise with OP, if she weren’t pregnant then I’d probably agree to let the trip thing slide. But I love the idea of having a mother’s day with a bump.
It’d be different again if OP were invited…
The point I’m kind of making is that it’s good to send cards and gifts or go to visit but your wife is the woman in your life now and she should now be your main prioroty (I hope I make sense).
Post # 8
Um, Darling Husband would NOT be going. Yes you don’t have your baby physically outside the womb IMO you are a mother being pregnant. If you were invited then different story.
Sorry OP you have to go through this):
Post # 9
Since I am now a mom yeah I would be pissed beyond belief. Your Darling Husband should be putting you first not his mom. Though technically since the baby isnt born yet. I could see letting him go.
Post # 10
I’m relieved that most of you feel the same way I do about it. I was starting to feel guilty about being so angry about it.
Post # 11
Hmmm…. I would really like to have a “mom’s day” where Mother-In-Law, my mom, me and all other moms have a day of sushi, wine and TLC. The men should watch the kids and babies!!!
Otherwise, I am fine with him showing his mom some appreciation so long as I get some as well. So yes that wouldn’t fly with me.
Post # 12
@kelly105: Your Mother-In-Law is probably having her last chance being in this situation. I would talk about it with my Darling Husband in your position and make sure he passes along that info to your Mother-In-Law.
Post # 13
Yep, I’m fine with sharing the day, but not losing it completely. I will say, though, that I was just over my first trimester last year and didn’t want to make a big deal out of it, because I still wasn’t feeling confident. This year, you can bet I expect some celebrating!!
We will probably celebrate with my parents, so both my mom and I.
Post # 14
Crap, I read the poll wrong! But no, once you become parents, your husband should be spending time with YOU.
Post # 15
@kelly105: Holy moly, if you are going to be 33 week pregnant at that time and you weren’t even invited THAT is bad.
If you weren’t pregnant I would say no big deal. Until you become a mom let his mom enjoy the time with him, but in your situation I am utterly appauled that his mother wants him to go on that big of a trip when you are that far along and not even take you with. Rude.
Post # 16
Wow. the mother sounds like a witch. Who takes someone away from their preg wife on mothers day.