(Closed) Mother’s day – for couples that live near both moms – how do you divvy it up?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ugh mothers day! I live closer to my Mother-In-Law so we go to her house and celebrate every year. It really upsets my mom. My mom would rather I stay home than go to visit only my Mother-In-Law. My mom is just really jealous, but I know that if I stay home, my Mother-In-Law would be upset. It’s so frustrating.

In your case I would just go with your own moms. I guess I just don’t see MILs as your “mom”. I can see how your mom doesn’t like spending time with your Mother-In-Law, it’s not her family.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My family gets upset at me for every holiday. I spend every single holiday with DH’s family and my parents can’t stand it. This year my in laws get Christmas too and it makes me cry just thinking about not seeing my family this year (they live too far away for short visits so I always just went for a couple of weeks for Christmas.)

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I celebrate with my mom, (and grandma and brother) and Darling Husband celebrates with his mom.  We’ve never combined and don’t intend to because our moms are totally different.  While my mom prefers a nice brunch or botanical garden tour or day at a spa his mom prefers staying home and watching a basket ball game.  So I don’t see us ever combining the two.  

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Last year, my parents, my brother, his parents and us all went together to a fancy dinner! I am not on very good terms with my Future Mother-In-Law but she was very polite and nice to my mother. 🙂 We also got them both flowers for that dinner, and gave them seperate presents alone. It went over fairly well.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Both of our families are local so we see each Mom seperately on Mothers Day. We’ve never combined the holiday and I don’t think we ever will. We normally go to my IL’s for brunch and then my moms for dinner or vice versa (we always cook or provide the food though). This year, however, I’m on the outs with my Mother-In-Law and have no interest in seeing her so Darling Husband will probably stop by to drop off her gift, hang out for a little while and then come home so we can go celebrate together with my mom. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Luckily my mom hates mother’s day and refuses to participate haha!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We do lunch with his mom and then dinner with my mom and grandma.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As you can see by our wedding date, we’re giving our mom/stepmom a special Mothers Day present:) 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

we split up. I may stop over at the end of the night and give my Mother-In-Law flowers or something or to stop in and say hi but that’s it

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

I hate Mother’s Day too! Last year they had us both over for a BBQ dinner and it was OK, but I certainly don’t want to do that every year. I’ve already been asked what I’d prefer for this year, and I don’t even want to think about it right now.

We used to see our Moms the day before MD, so we could spend the real MD with our own kids.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

@ItWasntMe:  Can I ask why you hate mothers day?

 

 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

i have 3 moms to schedule for.  Darling Husband was raised by his step mom since he was 2, we also have his real mom & my mom.  We usually spend brunch with my mom, lunch with DH’s step mom and dinner with DH’s mom.  lots of running around :-/

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not married yet, but I’ll participate. We live in the same city as FH’s family, mine would require a flight. Last year, I think I happened to be with my mom for mother’s day but that usually does happen. I make sure to call her MULTIPLE times during the day (for Mother’s day, birthdays and other important days) because I haven’t lived in the same state as my family in over 10 years. We spend special occasions with FH’s family since they are here and the family is small/close. I do feel bad that I can’t be with my family on those days, but they understand. I try to be there in spirit, send card and gifts… so they feel my presence even if they miss me.

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