(Closed) Mothers Day Gift. Expected? Nearly Demanded?

posted 8 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
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Busy bee

Yep.  I could understand if she was asked what she wanted or was asked to provide a list (like at Christmas) but demanding like that doesn’t fly with me. 

She can bring over her rims all she wants…that doesn’t mean he has to buy her tires.  She isn’t putting a gun to his head so if he can’t afford it, then he can’t afford it. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

maybe that’s normal for them… boys aren’t always the best at giving gifts so she might be used to helping him decide what to give.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

In my fam we just tell each other what we want for all holidays like that because it’s just easier.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I hate that. Unless someone asks you what you want then you shouldn’t tell them to go buy it for you. We have asked my Future Mother-In-Law in the past what she would like whether it be bday, xmas, etc. and she has asked us for gift certificates and then told us how much they have to be for!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I dunno, that’s exactly the kind of thing that makes my family my family for me, you know? I’d never say it to anyone else other than Fiance maybe but sure I’d say it to my sister.  I’ve had 24 years of observing that she gives me presents and don’t want to cause her stress, so why not?  It’s not like she can’t choose not to.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Yeah, I’m not a fan of that either. FI’s fam usually tell each other what they want/are getting for Christmas, B-days, etc. Plus, they usually end up getting gift cards because it’s easier. I think it takes all the fun out of it. Future Brother-In-Law has already told us he’s buying us a flatscreen TV as a wedding present. I think it’s very generous of him & it would’ve been an amazing surprise!!

For Mother’s Day – my Mom’s one of those “oh, I don’t need anything, don’t buy me anything” but if you show up Mother’s Day with no present, she’ll be mad. Can’t win anyway! LOL

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My husband’s family does that for Christmas.  I grew up with not a lot of money so there were no such thing as wish lists.  So it was weird for me last christmas.

Now, there is a difference between giving your brother or sister some generalized suggestions and I want this model XYX with these accessories and I want it to be blue.  But they have a few specific items taht they really want and umm, not cheap. 

I actually wouldn’t be suprised if my Mother-In-Law did this for mother’s day.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It kinda depends. Does she ALWAYS get gifts? Cuz  I know my parents always get me somethign for my brithday. And if i just say, “ooo you can get me that for my bday!” it’s way easier than “hey surprise me” or trying to make them believe I don’t really want a gift.

But, IMO, of course a gift is expected for mother’s day, if you’re close with your mom, ha! I would NEVER show up empty handed! I would LOVE if my mom just told me what she wanted instead of making me guess =-]

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My mom does this and it just seems normal to me. I mean she has a lot of stuff that she has accumulated over the years and it’s easier for me if she just tells me what she wants.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

If she’s wanting tires for Mothers Day, what does she want for Christmas or her birthday?  Tires are not cheap, you could easily spend a few hundred dollars on them.

 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

You would think she would never think to keep expecting every time.

She expects it every time because he gives it to her everytime.  She has probably been taking him for granted.  This is what Mother-In-Law did.  She expects Darling Husband to pick up all of her pieces…she never learns from her mistakes because everyone cleans it up and promises to never do it again.  And then everyone is shocked when she…does it again. 



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