Post # 1
So I’m 38 weeks pregnant and will be celebrating this Mother’s Day as my 1st Mother’s Day. I feel as though moms-to-be have a right to be celebrated on Mother’s Day along with all mothers and mother figures.
Why can’t we celebrate?! We’re moms too! Although we have not physically held our children, we carry them, feel their every move.
So question is who should be celebrated?
Please be respectful to everyone and I will have a poll as well.
What I mean by mother figures are anyone who “plays” the roll of the mother. Example; I know a man who has had full custody of his son since his son was 2 weeks old. The boy’s mom has NEVER been around after the man got custody. So I feel like he is a mother/father. Another example: Any woman blood or not, that raise a child as their own.
Post # 2
All moms! Taking care of someone is hard work, I don’t think gender/genetics should determine if someone gets appreciated on this day for what they do. My husband is taking me out to celebrate this year because we’re expecting later this summer. Happy first mother’s day to you too OP 🙂
Post # 3
eecuadrado: I think anyone can celebrate if they want to, I suppose it’s typically more of a private celebration anyway so it shouldn’t matter.
I would consider someone who is pregnant on Mother’s day to be a mom. The man with sole custody though is kind of odd, I get that he sort of acts as “both parents” but I wouldn’t wish him a happy mother’s day or anything…UNLESS he specifically mentioned wanting to be acknowledged for it I guess.
Of course non-bio moms are moms too. Adoptive or step mothers should be able to be celebrated.
Post # 4
I’m near the end of the first trimester. I’m not planning on celebrating, but I would feel weird about celebrating myself, haha. If my husband wants to make a nice gesture, I would think it was sweet.
That being said, I wouldn’t think it was weird for a mom to be to celebrate! Especially for someone who is further along.
Also, I think that any mother figure can be celebrated!
Post # 5
housebee: Aww that’s awesome! Thank you! Happy 1st Mother’s day to you as well!
playdohpants: That is a really good point!! It is a private celebration. Never thought about it like that. But I like it.
Post # 6
AnonymousCupcake: Aww I hear ya. It’s whatever you’re comfortable with.
Post # 7
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
eecuadrado: LOL!! I am the polls are fun voter. I don’t know, as a mom of 13, almost 14 years I am kind of torn but my opinion may be a little biased. What I mean is, before thinking about becoming a mom and before being pregnant with my first child, I would have never wanted to celebrate Mother’s day for any other reason than for my mom and granny.
That being said, since (with my first) I was already a “mom” (because he was born the Fri before Mother’s day) I am not sure how I would have felt had I been pregnant on Mother’s day. I may have still considered myself a mom and felt I should get the same recognition. Heaven knows I milk it for everything it is worth when I can. This year I will not be able to as my FI usually caters to me while I cater to my mom, in turn handing those things over to him & my brother mostly. However, this year my FI is out of town on business so I guess it will be just another day for me while trying to make it special for my mom.
LOL! This actually makes me think about my cousin who would tell everyone “Happy Mother’s Day”, even his dad and brothers, because he said it was still Mother’s day. And just like you would say Merry Christmas to everyone, he said Happy Mother’s Day to everyone. More of an “I guess you had to be there” situation, maybe.
I didn’t see the bio/step moms listed until I re-read. As a stepmom, if I did not have my own bio children, I would not expect to be celebrated. But simply for the fact that we do not get much interaction with my step daughter, she lives 3000 miles away. She is, however, moving closer in June and I am hoping to form a bond with her then. In a case where a stepmom is a big caregiver (as my FI is to my oldest two, he in fact provides a lot of support to my kids as I have custody and my ex~husband does not pay child support) or a stepmom who is the mother (where the bio mother may not be in the picture for whatever reason), then they deserve as much recognition on mother’s day as I do. My oldest two celebrate Father’s day with my FI, their father and his partner. You can imagine how fun it is shopping for 3 Father’s day presents along with finding something for my own, LOL!
Post # 8
I always celbrated my “extra grandmas” on mother’s day, along with my grandma and my mom. My parents were always teaching me to be very respectful to older people, and a lot of my dad’s aunts and a few of our elderly neighbors became like third, fourth and fifth grandmas to me. It really touched me at one of their funerals when one of their own children hugged me and said “she always talked about you like you were one of the grandkids.”
Post # 9
MrsUPS: Polls are fun. thank you and Misswhowedding:
I like hearing everyones outlook on it.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
No one. It’s a stupid hallmark holiday that makes me roll my eyes. I wish it would go away, along with Fathers Day, Valentines Day, Columbus Day, and the oodles of other ridiculous observance days we have.
Post # 11
I agree with the previous poster- I think Mother’s Day is dumb. I am a mother, and obviously have one of my own. It it just an extra holiday that I don’t need the stress about.
Post # 12
This will be my third Mother’s Day being a mom and it still feels weird that people acknowledge me and get me gifts lol. I’m just so used to celebrating for my mom and grandma. I think it’s a sweet holiday and however anyone wants to celebrate to recongnize the motherly figure in my life is okay by me. My FI lost his mother to cancer when he was 12 and was raised by his aunt. There has never been a doubt whether or not him and his siblings celebrate Mother’s Day for her!
Post # 13
eecuadrado: Is this even an issue? I mean, is there a Mother’s Day police going around citing people?
Post # 14
I read an article by a wonderful woman named Sherri Dew once called Mother Hearts. The basis behind it is, we may not be able to become mothers, but we can have mother hearts. We can still nurture and take care of those in need, help the motherless child, be a mother figure to those who may not have one (or be the second mother figure when one is needed). For that reason, I think all women should be celebrated. I don’t mean to take away from those that are actually moms, but I have known several women in my life, who never had the opportunity to be a mother, but have every wonderful and endearing quality a mom should have, and they should be recognized too!
Post # 15
Zhabeego: Idk but if you see a Mother’s Day police let us know.
If you didn’t see if as an “issue” or have an actual opinion why comment.