Post # 1
I keep reading (on Weddingbee and other sites) about brides complaining about their mothers…that they’re driving them crazy and being too pushy, making them feel pressured, or hurt, etc.
And I just want to remind everyone that they are lucky to even have a mother to drive them crazy in the whole planning process. I bet 10 to 1 that most mothers have good intentions, and are excited about their daughter’s wedding day…and even if, in the process of doing everything, your mom makes you frustrated, try to take a step back. Remember that she means well, and that you are blessed to have a mother who is alive and well and interested in your life.
When my mom was 21 and engaged, she would’ve given anything for her mother to be alive to take her dress-shopping.
In the coming years, you won’t remember that your mom had too many opinions on bridesmaid dresses or ceremony music… you will look back and think what a sacred time that was, to share something with your mother that will only happen once.
We have no certainty of anything except today. Every moment is a blessing. Your mothers will not always be there.
Enough preaching. Be well. Enjoy today. Know that you are blessed, and you are loved.
Post # 3
I definitely agree. I know I’ll never get these opportunities again with my mom. So as much as we may have gone back and forth about things, I’m really thankful that we’re able to share all of these moments together.
Thanks for bringing that up. It reminds me of how lucky I am to have such a supportive and loving mom who is able to share all of these things with me :]
Post # 4
I was reading a thread on weddingbee with the overall topic of “Mother-of-the-bride-zilla Stories”. In the middle of it, a girl posted about how one of the biggest wedding-related arguments her mom and sister had was whether the mom could invite her friends. A few months later, when the mom’s cancer was at it’s worst, those same friends were the ones by her bedside and the sister was glad she had compromised and invited them. The poster was planning her own wedding and wishing her mom was there like she was for her sister’s.
Any time I get frustrated with my mom, I try to remind myself of that. I am LUCKY. She can be frustrating, stressful, demanding, rude, etc But she can also be helpful, loving, and supportive. Plenty of girls (and guys) don’t have their moms there for their wedding, so I should be thankful I do.
Thanks for pointing that out!
Post # 5
I so agree. I would give a lot to even have a mother, growing up I never had one. I would much rather disagree with a mother than not have one at all!
Post # 6
Those were very nice posts ladies coming after Mother’s Day. I sense a lot of good Mom-karma headed your way:-)