Post # 77
It does look a little more like a ivory or champage however, I hope it’s not even close to being this short with it being the Future Mother-In-Law. My mom wore Ivory to my first wedding i don’t didn’t mind. Everyone is going to know that your the bride. But if it bothers you then say so.
Post # 78
My sister’s Mother-In-Law showed up in a white dress, and my side of the family thought that it was a pretty bold and rude thing to do. Your wedding day should be very special, and if you do not want your Future Mother-In-Law to wear a white dress, talk to your future husband and approach her together and politely. Personally, I would have picked the colors for the bridal party, so that you can avoid this issue. You are an adult, and it is your wedding, so she should respect your wishes. Personally, I cannot think of a reason why one would wear white to another person’s wedding. I hope you have a great wedding.
Post # 79
oops…just read your update. Glad it all worked out. Sounds like she is great Mother-In-Law.
Post # 80
I wish I could find the post but a few months ago there was a gal who posted a picture. Everyone thought it was the bride. Here it was the frickin’ Mother-In-Law. She was a really good looking blond gal and she was dancing with the groom, her son, but it looked like THEY were the ones married. She looked his age and was wearing a really beautiful floor length white gown. If you looked you could see if had a slight tint of color to it and floral pattern, but everyone was commenting on how much they thought she was the bride.
EDIT: FOUND IT!!
My Mother-In-Law wore white….
This is why the Mother-In-Law shouldn’t wear white.
Post # 81
Thank you all.
She will be in pictures and it’ll look like she is wearing a short version of my dress essentially. Lol I don’t care what people wear if their not in pictures. But this was just too much for me. 😛 Thanks for the input
Post # 82
Ouch, so awkward! I know some people aren’t as fussy about people who aren’t the bride wearing white, but it really bothers me. I really think people make a conscious choice to wear white, and it’s not just because they like the color!
Post # 83
My mom actually asked me if she could wear an ivory coloured lace dress with a train on it to my wedding. She is a HUGE attention whore who will make a production out of everything, because that’s what she does. I told her I would buy her dress just so she doesn’t wear this lacy thing with a train, but I have a feeling she will try to show up in it anyway.
Post # 84
I know. It bothers me, but not enough for me to say, “You can’t come to the wedding.” Lol But still! And for the people who think I am being uptight or whatever, more power to ya for not giving a rats bum. I think people (women, mothers) do it for the attention. I agree with you!
What! No ma’am!
Post # 85
I thought it was pretty much a standard rule of etiquette not to wear white to a wedding. I have a lot of white dresses I like, but I’ve never worn them to a wedding. I save them for other events.
It seems even more odd that she’s chosen one that’s lace.
O.M.G. She looks like the bride. That’s ridiculous!
Post # 86
I think traditionally the bride should only wear white. But I’m indifferent about it. I feel like no one is going to upstage me on my wedding day. I kind of feel like your Mother-In-Law could be trying to push your buttons a little
Post # 87
My mom is wearing ivory to my wedding (well, she calls it Light Champagne). It also has VERY similar detailing to my dress that is hard to find – soutache and beading. And it’s nearly as long as my dress.
I’ve decided to just let it go. My mom never had a “real” wedding, and I can tell she’s having a hard time with all of this (she wants to come to my bachelorette party, for instance, but wants nothing to do with a bridal shower…). She doesn’t WANT to be “Mother of the Bride”-esque, but feels presured to by whoever (not us…we could care less).
So, I’m dropping it. I want her to feel beautiful and, yes, if she wants to, a little bridal. It’s hard to share the spotlight, but I truly, truly don’t think anyone is going to be mistaking her for the bride, or looking at her instead of my Fiance and me. It’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 88
i would be fine if my Future Mother-In-Law wore white because im wearing ivory 🙂 it wouldnt bother me just as long as she didnt have her tits and arse hanging out of what ever she is wearing. Oooh not to mention being too tight that it shows all the love handles, jelly bellys and stuff.
I would be more insulted if she dragged something out of her wadrobe that screamed 1985 or if she wore something that was old and full of wrinkles or holes. Yes I have seen mil do that.
its just a color
Post # 89
@futurepilotswife_: Well, I understand you’re upset. My sister in law wore a white dress too at my wedding, on proposal of her mother, my mother in law. I was quite angry too….
Post # 90
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
Just tell her “I am sure you would look lovely in this dress….but remember…You can’t look as good as me!” *saucey wink* “Indulge me and please pick another color….any other color”
ETA: Maybe remind her that is something you (the bride) would wear to the rehearsal dinner or bachlorette. Now, I am all for Mothers looking good. My goal in the wedding is that EVERYONE gets laid at the end of the night, but there is an appropriatness line…
Post # 91
i’m glad it all worked out for you!!
another fun story though – my friend won a wedding contest where everything was made for her by local vendors. on her wedding day, there was a woman in a short white dress wearing a Veil headpiece!!
there were a lot of people invited that she didn’t know because it was sort of a big deal for the town, so media were there and a select amount of other locals were invited. and we spent a lot of time dissing this chick behind her back, wondering who she was.
eventually she came up to the bride to introduce herself, she was the one who made her veil.
We couldn’t believe she wore a headpiece!
my Future Mother-In-Law might wear a champagne colored dress, which I don’t mind, but I would be annoyed if someone wore white.