(Closed) mothers that wear white….uhhh

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 77
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It does look a little more like a ivory or champage however, I hope it’s not even close to being this short with it being the Future Mother-In-Law. My mom wore Ivory to my first wedding i don’t didn’t mind. Everyone is going to know that your the bride. But if it bothers you then say so.

Post # 78
3 posts
  • Wedding: July 2005

My sister’s Mother-In-Law showed up in a white dress, and my side of the family thought that it was a pretty bold and rude thing to do.  Your wedding day should be very special, and if you do not want your Future Mother-In-Law to wear a white dress, talk to your future husband and approach her together and politely.  Personally, I would have picked the colors for the bridal party, so that you can avoid this issue.  You are an adult, and it is your wedding, so she should respect your wishes.  Personally, I cannot think of a reason why one would wear white to another person’s wedding. I hope you have a great wedding.

Post # 79
3 posts
  • Wedding: July 2005

oops…just read your update.  Glad it all worked out.  Sounds like she is great Mother-In-Law.

Post # 80
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wish I could find the post but a few months ago there was a gal who posted a picture. Everyone thought it was the bride. Here it was the frickin’ Mother-In-Law. She was a really good looking blond gal and she was dancing with the groom, her son, but it looked like THEY were the ones married. She looked his age and was wearing a really beautiful floor length white gown. If you looked you could see if had a slight tint of color to it and floral pattern, but everyone was commenting on how much they thought she was the bride.


My Mother-In-Law wore white….

This is why the Mother-In-Law shouldn’t wear white. 

Post # 82
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ouch, so awkward! I know some people aren’t as fussy about people who aren’t the bride wearing white, but it really bothers me. I really think people make a conscious choice to wear white, and it’s not just because they like the color!

Post # 83
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My mom actually asked me if she could wear an ivory coloured lace dress with a train on it to my wedding. She is a HUGE attention whore who will make a production out of everything, because that’s what she does. I told her I would buy her dress just so she doesn’t wear this lacy thing with a train, but I have a feeling she will try to show up in it anyway.

Post # 85
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I thought it was pretty much a standard rule of etiquette not to wear white to a wedding. I have a lot of white dresses I like, but I’ve never worn them to a wedding. I save them for other events.

It seems even more odd that she’s chosen one that’s lace.

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@megz06:  O.M.G. She looks like the bride. That’s ridiculous!


Post # 86
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think traditionally the bride should only wear white. But I’m indifferent about it. I feel like no one is going to upstage me on my wedding day. I kind of feel like your Mother-In-Law could be trying to push your buttons a little 

Post # 87
22 posts

My mom is wearing ivory to my wedding (well, she calls it Light Champagne). It also has VERY similar detailing to my dress that is hard to find – soutache and beading. And it’s nearly as long as my dress.

I’ve decided to just let it go. My mom never had a “real” wedding, and I can tell she’s having a hard time with all of this (she wants to come to my bachelorette party, for instance, but wants nothing to do with a bridal shower…). She doesn’t WANT to be “Mother of the Bride”-esque, but feels presured to by whoever (not us…we could care less).  

So, I’m dropping it. I want her to feel beautiful and, yes, if she wants to, a little bridal. It’s hard to share the spotlight, but I truly, truly don’t think anyone is going to be mistaking her for the bride, or looking at her instead of my Fiance and me. It’ll be fine ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 88
456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

i would be fine if my Future Mother-In-Law wore white because im wearing ivory  ๐Ÿ™‚  it wouldnt bother me just as long as she didnt have her tits and arse hanging out of what ever she is wearing. Oooh not to mention being too tight that it shows all the love handles, jelly bellys and stuff.

I would be more insulted if she dragged something out of her wadrobe that screamed 1985 or if she wore something that was old and full of wrinkles or holes. Yes I have seen mil do that.

its just a color




Post # 89
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@futurepilotswife_:  Well, I understand you’re upset. My sister in law wore a white dress too at my wedding, on proposal of her mother, my mother in law. I was quite angry too….

Post # 90
3419 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Just tell her “I am sure you would look lovely in this dress….but remember…You can’t look as good as me!” *saucey wink* “Indulge me and please pick another color….any other color”

ETA: Maybe remind her that is something you (the bride) would wear to the rehearsal dinner or bachlorette. Now, I am all for Mothers looking good. My goal in the wedding is that EVERYONE gets laid at the end of the night, but there is an appropriatness line…

Post # 91
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

i’m glad it all worked out for you!!

another fun story though – my friend won a wedding contest where everything was made for her by local vendors. on her wedding day, there was a woman in a short white dress wearing a Veil headpiece!!

there were a lot of people invited that she didn’t know because it was sort of a big deal for the town, so media were there and a select amount of other locals were invited. and we spent a lot of time dissing this chick behind her back, wondering who she was.

eventually she came up to the bride to introduce herself, she was the one who made her veil.

We couldn’t believe she wore a headpiece!

my Future Mother-In-Law might wear a champagne colored dress, which I don’t mind, but I would be annoyed if someone wore white.

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