(Closed) Mothers.. ugh

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honestly, I can see why your mother would freak out at finding out you’re saying you want a baby on FB. First off, shouldn’t that kinda be private? I wouldn’t want my whole friends list in my business like that. Secondly, after the engagement has been called off and you getting ready for basic and not being rpepared for a baby, of course she is concerned! She probably does think you’re trying, most people wouldn’t say anything, especially on FB, if they weren’t actually trying.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Mrs.Vowrenewal: It’s not bad to have a baby out of wedlock?  WHATT?!?! I’m sorry, but I totally disagree with your views on that.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs.Vowrenewal: I didn’t say having a baby out of wedlock was bad. But having a baby that you are not ready for is bad, and you’ve said yourself in past posts that you aren’t ready. Plus, you said yourself that you’re not sure you want to get married – and in my opinion having a child together is right about as large of a commitment as getting married. Although you talk about wanting him to re-propose soon too, so maybe I missed something cuz I’m kinda confused about that.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Mrs.Vowrenewal: Good, I’m glad to hear it!  But, your story is not typical.  Studies have found that children born to single mothers are vastly more likely to be poor, have behavioral and psychological problems, drop out of high school, and themselves go on to have out-of-wedlock children.  As a Christian, I believe children should be born from marriage.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Okay, this is getting off topic. I see this getting closed soon..

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@amw511s: If you have an actual reason for kendall for why you think she would wait, that would be one thing. Stating multiple times that you’re Christian and therefore do not approve is quite another – we get it already. Clearly she does not share your religious viewpoint, stop pushing it.

 

Kendall, I just worry because your posts seem to be so up and down, you change your mind and your life plans a lot, I think you should probably get your life a bit more solid before you start TTC, otherwise I worry for you and the baby. You’re fairly young too, right? There’s no rush, I think you’ll be in a much better situation to care for a child if you can wait awhile.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Wonderstruck: I didn’t say multiple times that I was a christian – I said it once.  I’m not pushing anything.  I’m rather shocked by your harsh critique b/c your statements did not relate to my posts whatsoever.  This is my viewpoint and I’m allowed to state it.  I wasn’t being rude or saying that she was a bad person.  I have many friends who have had children without being married.  I do not judge.  Apparently, you do. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@amw511s: You honestly think that your posts weren’t judging and mine were? Maybe you need to read them again. I was trying to give constructive criticism, you were just basically telling her that she’ll end up being part of a bad statistic and saying that you’re Christian so you think she’s wrong. Taking her vent about her mother and whether or not she is ready to have a baby and turning it into a disagreement about wedlock, religious views, etc., is just asking for trouble. Which is why I was sticking to thetopic of her mother and whether or not she’s ready for a child.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Babies aren’t puppies.

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