(Closed) Mother’s walking down the aisle.

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t know if there are any “rules” about this.  If you are not having anyone else walk down the isle then I would put my foot down and say no.  It’s YOUR wedding day. 

Post # 4
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Father-In-Law and his wife walked down first, followed by my grandfather. Then my two nephews walked my mom and Mother-In-Law down the aisle, then came my stepson as ringbearer, followed by my BMs and then me and my dad. Lots of people, LOL! Do what makes you happy I really don’t think it’s worth stressing over!

Post # 5
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

From my understanding, his folks, yours, grandmas, (basically, everybody with a corsage) are walked in before the processional starts. Maybe they’re the last ones to go in that are ‘non-wedding party,’ but I have never seen them walked in as part of the processional. If your bro is a groomsman rather than an usher, maybe having him walk her in anyway would be a nice touch.

Post # 6
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve always seen the mothers being walked down the aisle by ushers before the processional starts so it’s not an unusual request.  But it’s up to you…it’s your ceremony.

Post # 7
2 posts

Your mother is probably thinking of being seated formally by an usher (like your brother) as one of the last things that happens before the processional. Traditional etiquette says the mother of the bride is the last person to be seated and when she is ushered in you know everything is just about to start. So it’s definitely common and your mother is not being impossible by wanting. But if you give her that honor that is no reason why your dad can’t walk down too! Especially if he’s remarried or has a daughter that’s not a bridesmaid, that way he would have someone to walk with. But if not he could walk alone too. I’d suggest that you do this:

Right before the ceremony begins, formally seat (walking down the aisle with an usher to the front row) any grandparents of yours or FI’s.

Then formally seat your dad (and stepmom if you have one).

Then formally seat FI’s mom and dad (if they’re divorced, seat him before your dad).

Then formally seat your mom.

Then start the actual processional. 

This is totally in line with official wedding etiquette (making all the guests who care about those traditions happy), gives your mom what she wants, and gives you what you want (your dad honored just as much as or more than she is).

And… if she really is thinking of being in the processional…. offer her the idea of being formally seated as a more commonly done way of giving her the same honor. (because you shouldn’t have to put her in the processional! That is unreasonable)

Post # 8
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My Darling Husband came in  and escorted his mom and my mom down the aisle and then they lit the memorial candles together 🙂

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