(Closed) Mothers wanting grandchildren to be name after her name

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it’s a lovely gesture if it works for the couple that actually has the baby.  Both our mothers and my husband’s sister’s middle names are “Anne”, so we might go for it.  But, we’ve never been pressured to do so.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If it was me personally, I would say no.  My Mom and Mother-In-Law both have common names that I would not choose as my child’s name.  Plus I’m not super big on first-naming someone after another family member.  However, they are both nice names and we like tradition, so we plan on using their names as our future child’s middle names (if we have a girl).

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My mom wants my kids named after her (Sy’Donna) but me and my Fiance are probably going to disappoint. Haha

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have the same middle name as my dad, who was also a second child, and my mom really wants me to give it to my second child. I’m fine with it, since it’s a middle name. I wouldn’t be nearly as accomodating with a first name, though! If I really liked the name, I would consider it, but that’s it.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

My brother just had their second girl, first one’s middle name is SIL mom’s name second girl’s middle name is my mom’s maiden name.  

Did she name you after anyone?  if not that could be your out!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t know.  That is a lot to ask for.  I think I would consider it if I wanted it, if we were very close or they were very special or elderly.  Other than that…  I prefer not to name my children after anyone.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

as jews, we won’t name our kids after anyone still living.

we do plan to carry on the middle name that almost every male on my side has though.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it is rude of them that they asked. Kinda tooting your own horn don’t ya think? I plan on using my sisters name for a middle name, other than that everyone in my Darling Husband family does the middle name for the boys after the Grandpas, so it is a bit overdone. I love my MIL; not enough to name a child after her though and plus her name is stripper esque to me anyways.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It would depend on the name for us and if we liked it.  Using one of their names as a middle name could also be an option.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

When I was pregnant, almost any name suggestions annoyed me.  😀

The name issue got ridiculous, and we finally *announced* the name at my baby shower.  I got that idea from a friend, bc that way people won’t criticize as much.  Luckily, our family likes CoWBoy’s name, anyway.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would hate it if my mom or Future Mother-In-Law pressured me to name my baby anything in particular. I think it’s my FI’s and my choice, and I’m just stubborn enough that if I got pressure to name my child something, I’d probably be like, “Hell, no!” even if I did like that name before! Plus, I’m not super crazy for either my mom or FMIL’s names, so yeah, not doing that. Maybe I’ll wind up just having boys and it won’t be an issue!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that grandparents already had children and thus already had their chance to pick names. It isn’t their kid – they don’t get a say!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Agree with Crayfish. I think the baby’s name should be selected by the mother and father. That’s why I’m of the opinion of not telling name choices or the final name until after the baby is born. That’s what I plan on doing. After the baby is born, then we will announce the name. I won’t discuss the potential names with family on either side while pregnant. I want everybody to be surprised. And if they don’t like the name, tough! I would hope they wouldn’t say so, but even if they do, oh well. I would never tell a family member I didn’t like their child’s name, but I guess some people are more vocal.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m with Bubu82, I HATE being pressured to do anything! Especially with something like our child’s name, it’s OUR choice and no one else’s!

With our daughter, my Future Mother-In-Law was constantly pressuring us to choose an Amish name from her side of the family, 2 names in particular which we both hated. But she’s not culturally Amish in ANY way wtf! Her mother left the community when she was young, and her father was a European mutt. My Future Mother-In-Law is ridiculous like that, only Amish when it suits her. *rolls eyes*

When we finally chose a name, she started pressuring us to spell it a certain way. Um, NO GO AWAY. *sigh*

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