(Closed) Mother/son dance dilemma (super long)

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

It’s a mother son dance, not a stepmother son, aunt son, cousin son etc dance. He doesn’t have to dance with someone who isn’t his mother.

I think the whole idea of a mother son or father daughter dance is creepy AF though…

Post # 3
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3324 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

He should just dance with his Mom. I’m sure his step brothers know he has a real mom and a step mom, it shouldnt devastate them in any way to see him dance with his mother.

Post # 4
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1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am sorry the brother is a real turd.   The most your fiance should do is expalin to his dad and brother ahead of time, only mother son dance will be with real mom.  

Post # 5
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221 posts
Helper bee

No. He should dance with his mother only.

Post # 6
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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soon2bemrs10142017 :  I would say if he doesn’t want to then I wouldn’t make him. It’s traditionally a biological parent or whoever you feel closest with. I think if he’s not super close with her and its out of obligation it will be an uncomfortable moment for him. We’re not even doing a mother son dance. Weddings don’t have to follow perfect etiquette anyways. It’s your wedding don’t let fear of personal feeling or drama scare you from doing what you want! 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No one should tell him who to dance with, including us and his stepmom. This is FI’s decision and his alone. It is not his responsibility to deal with his stepmother’s feelings.

Post # 9
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10509 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

No, not at all. He does not have to dance with anyone he doesn’t want to. Who cares what the hell anyone else did? His father abused him and his step-mother treated him like shit, fuck their feelings. I’d hire security to be prepared to kick them out before I’d make my Fiance dance with his step-mother just to placate some immature assholes.

Also, I can’t believe his brother didn’t tell his mom beforehand that he was dancing with his stepmom instead. What a dick!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

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soon2bemrs10142017 :  Are you trying to say they’ll physically attack him at his own wedding if they feel he is disrespecting step mom? In that case, hire some security or better yet don’t invite them.

Post # 14
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10509 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Is not inviting the step-brothers an option? Would either of you miss them if they weren’t there (I seriously doubt this based on your posts) or is anyone contributing money who would require them to be on the guest list?

Post # 15
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3324 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

If she storms out, she will look the idiot.

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