Post # 1
I am getting married in july and I am about 20-30 pounds over weight. I am 5 foot 7 and am around 200 pounds. I am not motivated to lose this weight and have no clue why? How is standing up in front of 200 people not enough for me to have motivation? HELP!!!
Post # 3
Depending on your body composition you’re actually more than 20-30 lbs overweight… I’m also 5’7″ and I weigh 175 (so about what you are saying is your goal) and I’m trying to lose 30 pounds to be at a healthy weight. Rather than trying to think about it from a perspective of how you look think about it as health risk. Carrying that much extra weight it is a strain on your body and can effect your longevity. It’s also really important to start trying to get healthy NOW if you want to consider trying to get pregnant shortly after the wedding.
Post # 4
ok if that was supposed to motivated me it didnt work. You just made me feel worse! Everyone is built differently and I will never be 135 pounds I am just not built that way. I will never post anything like this again, lesson learned!
Post # 5
@salsaje: It is soo hard to get motivated! I was in the same boat, around 200 lbs and 5′ 5″. I had just started up grad school and kept using that as an excuse for not finding the time. I would come home late and watch info commercials, since that was the only thing on. After seeing all the workout adds and people getting fit, it really began to affect me. I started looking at myself in a new light, and realized I wasn’t happy.
But the wedding should not be your ultimate motivation, you have to do it for yourself! I started about 2 years ago, lost weight very quickly because I was so out of shape and it was a good wake up call for my body. But, just by living life there will be times you gain weight, esp. around holidays if you aren’t super strict about diet. Ultimately it has to be a lifestyle change for you, or you will gain it back after the wedding.
Your best bet is to start a program or get a trainer to head you in the right direction, but the first week or two are going to be hell. If you can make it through those weeks that will be your motivation. Because you will see results, whether it be not taking so many breaks, or having body parts look or feel stronger. After that, that will be your motivation from there, it won’t be easy but it will be easier from there.
Post # 6
Dont think your alone im also having this issue i think alot of it is the pressure from everyone around asking if im going to loose weight….i know i do want to loose weight but i know i need to be ready to do it, changing your lifestyle is hard to do when your trying to plan a wedding.
Post # 7
Thanks guys, that made me feel better. What I didnt need to hear is how I am more overweight than I am thinking I need to be! It is hard to watch your diet and have time to exercise when I have all these appointments with different wedding vendors! I am trying to take baby steps, no fried foods, avoid white carbs as much as possible. I am sure I will get better, I am already watching what I eat. My issue is the exercising, I HATE IT!!!!! lol
Post # 8
I’ve been on the weight rollercoaster for a couple years now. If I’ve learned anything from this ride, it’s that the only time you can successfully lose weight is when you’re mentally ready to. I’ve lost a gained 30 lbs 3 times since I was 17. It’s no easy feet. You can do it, you just need to want to for yourself. You’ll get there.
Post # 9
Salsaje – First, I don’t think you should be offended by Moose, she was just giving you some health information. There are tons of resources on the web to figure out a healthy goal weight. According to Body Mass Index, a healthy weight for you would be between 117 and 159 pounds. If you’re big boned, you’ll probably feel your best near the top of that range.
Although there are obvious health reasons that you will want to lose the weight eventually (especially before having children), there is no reason that you have to put additional stress on yourself to lose a bunch of weight by the wedding. Losing weight is a lot of work, and take a lot of focus and effort – just like planning a wedding! This may just not be the time for you to focus on weight loss.
If you are looking for sources of motivation, I would check out sparkpeople.com. It’s a totally free website with tons of articles, success stories, and weight loss/health information. If you decide to go for it, Sparkpeople will help you set a realistic weight loss goal and will advise you on a healthy, moderate calorie-range and fitness plan. There is also tons of information about workouts you can do at home, as well as free workout videos to get you started.
When I’m feeling unmotivated, it helps to look at weight loss websites or watch weight loss shows like the Biggest Loser, just to get my brain back into that gear.
In the end though, whatever happens with your weight, you should focus on enjoying your amazing wedding day…your weight doesn’t define you, and has nothing to do with the loving committment of marriage. Good luck!
Post # 10
Ok first of all, DO NOT listen to what Dr.’s, or other people, say is a “healthy, recommended” weight. I am 5’3 and will never ever be at my recommended weight. I think it’s something ridiculous like 115 or something. I’ve been a dancer since I was 4 so I have a lot of muscle in my legs, but all my weight is in my stomach. I’m about 175 right now. The best motivation I have is how I feel when I exercise, even a little! You have to start small. And don’t look at the scale until you feel a difference in your clothes. It is extremely discouraging when you feel great about what you’re doing, then only see a loss of 1 or 2 lbs.
You also have to find something you enjoy. What about group classes at a local YMCA? Or Zumba? Pilates? DVD workouts? I know for me, personal training and a treadmill don’t do squat. I’m bored within 5 minutes and want to stop.
If I had to recommend a diet, I would say South Beach if you can handle the first two weeks without carbs or sugar, or Medifast. Medifast works VERY quickly, but you have to buy food, which I hate. I’m starting back on South Beach and you also see quick results.
For exercise, if you’re a stay at home person, Jillian Michaels 30-day Shred is awesome. It’s a three level workout program so you build up your tolerance and stamina.
Please don’t let other people discourage you. You’ll be beautiful!
Post # 11
thanks for all the ideas girls!!! I have the Jillian Michaels dvd and boy she kicks my butt. I am definitely ready to get started here now! I know what is right for my body and what is unrealistic! I don’t want to have goals that are unreachable than I will be more upset!
Post # 12
I lost almost 50 pounds last year, but I’m finding myself falling back into the habit of just not wanting to do anything! I’m a full-time student living on campus, and the dining hall food is TERRIBLE- in taste and nutrition. So right now ice cream is my best friend/worst enemy. I totally feel you.
Getting motivated is the hardest part. For me, I finally reached a point where I just couldn’t stand to be in my own body anymore. I didn’t feel good about myself, and I HAD to do something about it. Let me just say that that is NOT the reccommended way of going about it!
Personally, I like stretch bands and free weights. I can do them while I’m watching TV or just in my room between homework and wedding bee. I also take jiu jitsu classes, which I LOVE. We have some days that are primarily a workout with cardio and strength training, but mostly we spend our time learning tons of awesome and really helpful things that are a workout without even knowing it!
Things to motivate you: How wonderful you’ll feel in your wedding gown. How much energy you’ll have to get out on the dance floor with your guests. How confident you’ll feel in a bathing suit or lingerie on your honeymoon. How happy you’ll be with your body.
And most of all… the thought that you’re going to be starting a whole new phase of your life by being a married woman! This is a time that you need to embrace. You’re already gaining a sense of wholeness by marrying the love of your life- the only thing that could possibly make it better is by giving yourself a sense of peace about your body.
Post # 13
I told everyone that I plan on losing 20lbs so now its like I have no choice but to because my family keep commenting about it lol, but other then that I am about to get my dress which fits snug so that alone motivates me to work out 3 x’s a week so i dont have to pay for alterations !! Happy dieting … it doesnt take that much to lose, the first fe lbs usually falls right off and if all else fil (Alli) ill surely work lol GL : )
Post # 14
@Mrs. Palm Beach: “its like I have no choice but to because my family keep commenting about it”….aww that is awful! I hope they’re being supportive and not downright rude about it!
Post # 15
@foreverbegins: so far everyone is … and since their watching its keeping me on track
Post # 16
I hate exercising with a passion, but I’ve been working out and eating right and I’m getting in shape for the wedding (lost 5 lbs in January and workin on losing another 5 this month!). I quit the gym because I find it extremely hard to motivate myself to drive all the way there in the cold. I have an elliptical at home and I bought a few Jillian Michaels videos, and I also do the ones on Exercise TV on Demand (there’s TONS of them–I didn’t even need to buy the Jillian videos I have!).
My way to stay motivated is: I think about how I want myself to look. When I’m doing bicep curls or pushups or bicycle crunches, hating every second of it, I picture myself standing in front of everyone with fabulous, toned arms and a tiny waist. I also like to picture myself in 20 or so years, sharing my wedding pics/video with my kids, and thinking about how great I look. The last thing I’d ever want is to always look back on my wedding pics and think “ugh, if only I’d exercised more, eaten healthier, etc I would have looked better.”
I am also motivated by my beautiful and skinny bridesmaids. I gotta be the shining star when I stand up there next to them, not the chunky girl in the white dress!