(Closed) Mourning a living relative? Long. Sorry.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your story breaks my heart. I can’t believe he ran out on all of you like this. It sounds like you have amazing men in your life that will seamlessly fill in the roles you need for your wedding.

Post # 4
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926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Ugh.  I come from a “broken family,” but it was when I was 5.  Five year olds get over it. On the other hand, I have a friend whose father  announced to their catholic family that he was gay, after 25 years of marriage- he walked out with no further explanation.  They were devastated.  

I am 100% convinced that when something like this happens to you as an adult child it is SO much harder. 

I’m so sorry for your loss of your father and of that piece.  As PP said, it looks like you have supportive, loving men in your family and I hope that they help fill the void that this has surely left.

Post # 5
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7366 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just wanted to say that I am so sorry that you and your family have to go through this.  That being said, you should not feel any obligation to include him in your wedding.  He has clearly made his decision and does NOT deserve to have any part in it.  You need to surround yourself with the people who truly love you- and not those who put themselves and their selfish desires first.

Post # 6
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7694 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I am so sorry.   Your brother and your uncle sound like wonderful supportive men to you, as I am sure that your Fiance is.   I also agree with  @eeniebeans:   I am sorry you’ll have to tuck your “Disney dreams” away, but I am sure that your wedding day will be perfect, since you’ll be surrounded with all the people who truly love you on that day.

Post # 7
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so, so sorry. And I hope your mom has a really good lawyer.

Post # 9
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

 “this is between your parents. Not you”. This I could understand for a 10 year old, but an adult? Really

although i cant understand the pain and stress your family is going through i think this is a perfect response for an adult 

but your dad is being a coward and for your mom im sorry.  him running off towards what he thinks is going to be a fabulous new life and leaving her in his dust without even a goodbye, thats cruel and i hope she is strong enough to start over

hopefully one day your dad will realise what he has lost but even then the price will be very high. surround yourself with the people that love you and who you love – hoping the best for your family

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