Post # 1
I have decided to take my FI’s last name. We want to have children, and I feel strongly about my family all having the same last name. My parents divorced when I was young, and it was kind of a pain to never have the same last name as my mom.
So, I’ve make the decision, and I’m sticking to it. But I’m mourning my soon to be lost last name. I like my name. I’ve been Bluewolverine MaidenName for 36 years. FI’s name is perfectly fine as well. Aside from all of the normal crap you have to do (SS#, etc.), I realized last night that, in order for it to make sense, I’ll need to change the gmail address that I’ve been using for a really long time. I’ll have to basically re-brand myself at work. I may have to be Bluewolverine MaidenName MarriedName for a while, so people get it.
I’ll miss you, MaidenName.
Post # 3
@bluewolverine: its hard. I ended up dropping my middle, and then taking my maiden as my middle. This way, I am never not associated with that name. It definitely takes some getting used to, I just sent out an email notifying everyone in my contact list about the email change, and it didn’t cause too many issues. But I will say, that my personal I only changed my display name, and didn’t change my actual email address. It was just too much of a pita, but I had to change my work email
Post # 4
I totally understand. I never considered not taking my DH’s last name, but at the same time it’s sooo strange to know that I no longer am the same person I’ve been for 29 years! In fact, I still forget all the time and introduce myself with the wrong name! I’m so proud of my heritage, and it is really strange that people who meet me in the future won’t even know that I am a Maiden Name. That said, I know in the next year, I’ll get used to the name and on our 30th anniversary, I will have been Smores Married Name longer than I was Smores Maiden Name.
And you’re 100% right that going through all the actual name changing is kind of a pain. I say mourn the loss of your last name, but embrace the new name as a symbol of your new life! I’m sure you’ve thought of this, but you could always change your name to be Bluewoverine MaidenName MarriedName. I didn’t do that because my middle name has family significance, but otherwise, I would have definitely considered that.
Post # 5
I was happy to change my last name, as my maiden name was pretty odd and always misspelled. Didn’t matter much on the misspelling part, tho, since this name is spelled wrong just as often!
Post # 6
Aww, I hear ya. I’ve been thinking about that, too! I’ll be going from a name that has ALWAYS been mispronounced to one that people look at in terror and don’t even TRY to pronounce. *sigh*
They just look at it, say the first syllable and then trail off. There’s a silent J for pete’s sake!
I’m still excited about it in a way, too, though. 🙂
Post # 7
Yeah, I’m going through all of that right now. The night before I changed it I kind of had a freak out, like I’m losing the person I was before (I’m not, lol). I feel like I’m shedding the skin of who I was as a child and am now becoming this adult person and it’s a really weird feelilng. Not to mention it’s really hard to remember to sign my new last name on my signature.
I definitely agree that I want our whole family to have the same last name but it’s sad that I no longer have the name I grew up with, the name that made me my original family. I know I’m not old but it makes me feel old to be a Mrs. Somebody and to have changed my name. It’s a good feeling, but it’s one that will take some getting used to.
@ItWasntMe: I also have an easier new last name than my maiden, so it’s nice not having to spell it every time!
Post # 8
Yes, it’s going to be odd. I’ve made a “name” (no pun intended) for myself at work with my current name, and now I feel like that is going to all be lost. Also, my new married name is going to rhyme with my first name and I am dreeeading it terribly. It’s like Julia Gulia from “The Wedding Singer.” I cringe when I think about it. But, hopefully it will grow on me.
Post # 9
I can’t believe I only have a year left with my maiden name. I’m going to try to make it part of my middle name (First Middle Maiden Last) but I don’t want to drop my current middle name because it’s my grandmother’s name and has meaning to me. FI’s last name is fine and easier to spell and pronounce than my maiden name but I’m still sad.
Post # 10
I decided to keep my maiden name as a second middle name. I am still in the process of changing everything over and it is still weird to me but I do get some comfort from seeing my name still intact just with another one added to the end. Professionally I am keeping my name: First Maiden Last since it is a recognizable name. My old last name was unique and hard to spell by my new one is more common which is a plus sometimes but it means that I am having a hard time creating a new email account! Good luck
Post # 11
Thanks, everyone! In the debate on whether to change or not, it seemed like a lot of those changing were gung ho. Good to know I’m not alone in the mourning.
Post # 12
@bluewolverine: I’m in mourning too!!! I feel like i’ve really just started getting established in the business world and to from an easy to prounce/remember name to a difficult one is a bummer 🙁 I feel like I’m losing part of my identity!
I know I sound a little crazy but even though I love Fiance to death…it’s eating me inside to know that me and Future Mother-In-Law will be the same Mrs. Lastname. Ugh.