damarajade: dead on.
MissPumps: my family situation, is that I have none. NONE. Not one person, blood related except my kids, even knows I’m getting married. Hell, my father’s side doesn’t know my son exists, and my mom hasn’t been allowed in my life for a year and a half, and I’ve never met her family.
What I do have, is my kids, FI, a great best friend and my FIs family that has welcomed me with open arms. Yes, I’m having a big wedding, but I started to get really upset that my “side” will literally have no one. But, thats OK. FIs friends have truly become my friends (moved to this state, ironically to be closer to family-no friends) and I’m happy to share our joy with them.
A couple things I’m doing:
Food was the most important thing to FI and I. We splurged.
A good DJ was important, but I totally would’ve used my laptop and iTunes if I needed to.
Pics, I found an amateur who is fantastic. She’s charging me about 1/2 of what others go for in my area. She did budior photos for me, and I was so happy with my results.
Invites, a friend of a friend is designing them, then I’ll upload them to vista print.
Flowers, so not that important. I found some cheap lanterns on Amazon and some small vases. 3-5 flowers a piece from a local grocery store and a tea light, there’s my centerpieces. As for bouquets, haven’t decided yet, but they won’t be too fancy.
FI is very “old school” Italian, so a big affair is kind of expected. But that doesn’t mean my cheap side doesn’t come out at every turn, because I would’ve been happy getting married in my back yard!
Stay away from Pinterest and all that crap. You don’t NEED all that to make your day fabulous. A few personal touches, and the people you truly treasure, and who treasure you back, is really all you need 🙂