Post # 1
I am due with our first child (yay!) in March. Our lease on our house is up at the end of May. Our current home is on the smaller side and would work for a little while with a newborn baby, but not once he is any sort of mobile or starts accumulating a lot of stuff. Also we are losing our spare bedroom (which isn’t really big enough for a guest bed anyway) as the nursery, so we will be strapped for storage space and have no room for guests.
The original plan was to use the guest bedroom as the nursery for a couple of months and move at the end of May when our lease ends (while I am out on maternity leave). We will probably rent for one more year wherever we end up because I don’t want to buy a house in our town until we see how our travel jobs plus baby goes (aka I don’t want to be stuck in a mortgage if we are looking for new jobs and need to move to another city in a year). DH’s mom suggested to him that we move before the baby is born because she said she couldn’t imagine moving with a newborn. This would likely mean moving in February. Here are the pros and cons of that from my perspective:
Only have to set up one nursery
Don’t have to move with a newborn
Could set up basic things without a baby around
I have all of maternity leave to help with setting the house up
Stable routine with the baby from day 1
Only a month to set up the nursery
We would be moving when I’m 35+ weeks pregnant
We would probably have to pay out our lease, which would be a significant chunk of money
I don’t know that a lot of leases/properties would be available in February–most things here tend to open up in May or August
My husband argues that his mom knows what it’s like to have a baby and therefore has the best perspective on this, but I would rather not pay for 3 months of a lease we aren’t using, and I question my ability to settle into a house when I’m that pregnant. Is there a clear cut best option here?
Post # 2
Moving with a newborn is a complete pain in the ass. You will be exhausted from lack of sleep, it will screw up your feeding schedule, you won’t have time to set the new place up and you won’t be able to help with the move because you will be taking care of the baby.
Could you possibly find anyone to take over your lease? Does your lease allow for that option?
Post # 3
it might–we are renting from a coworker/friend. The problem is I don’t know who would be looking in February since most leases around here start in May or August. I also don’t know who would want a 3 month lease. Our landlord eventually wants to sell, and even we would have been on a month-to-month after May.
Post # 4
I’d recommend moving before! It’s so much easier before you have to deal with a baby, and you don’t have to worry about how they’ll adjust to a new place. The worst bit about moving with a baby though, is that it’s really hard to focus on finding a place, between the lack of sleep, the baby needing attention, and you and your husband adjusting to being parents.
Post # 5
If you’re planning to rent for a year and then move *again*, is there really no way you could make your current place work for one more year? Could you get a storage unit to accommodate the stuff currently in the spare bedroom? Do you really have guests that often, and do you expect that to continue once you have a baby? Etc.
Post # 6
I’m in a similar situation and we’re opting to move before. DH and I live in a 700 square foot apartment and are expecting baby in June. Our lease is up in July! We had planned to buy once our lease is up, but I’m NOT down with all the stress that I can just foresee coming with all that drama in that timeframe. We’re going to start looking at the beginning of December and just hope like heck that we can find something and be settled by at least April!
It’s going to cost us 2 months’ rent to buy out our lease, but it’s worth it to me. DH suggested staying here and renewing our lease in July for 3 months so that we’d be moving when baby is 4 months old, but that still sounds awful, and I can’t imagine bringing baby home and trying to get settled and then having to do it all over again in such a short period of time. Nope nope nope.
Post # 7
I moved from the UK to the USA with a 3 month old, packed up 2 houses in England and lived in a hotel room for a month. Then with my 2nd I moved again, only 5 mins down the road but we did it all ourselves with a u haul.
It is hard work but you can do it. Strap baby to your chest and off you go! It’s up to you but if saving money is important I think it is worth it :).
Post # 8
we will definitely have guests after the baby. I don’t feel great about staying because our landlord wants to sell and I don’t want to be out of an apartment with only one month notice and a baby. And we are already struggling for room without baby stuff 🙁 We have wedding gifts we can’t even take out of the box because there is nowhere to put them lol.
Post # 9
If she wants to sell, you being out of there early may be a benefit. Assuming you move in February and turn in the keys at the end of February that woudl give her March to get it ready to go on the market and then coudl have it on the market in April, which is the beginning of the real estate high season. Might be worth asking your landlord about. WHen my husband rented his house, we specifically made the lease end 2/28/18 for that reason!
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I’m due in March too!
DH and I aren’t looking at moving right now…but if we were I’d want to do it before the baby was born (physical limitations and all). My reason being I watched my friends who had a four month old baby at the time move to a bigger place, and it was complete HELL for them!
Post # 11
A 2-3 month old baby doesn’t really need much “stuff.” You could get a small crib to go in your room for those couple of months and not even set up a nursery until you move.
Do you have someone that is going to help you pack and move everything?
Post # 12
before! I have done both and it is easier to be done and settled before. They do have a ton of crap, more than you expect. And packing and moving with an infant is hard. Not to mention just takking care of a 2-3 month old. So you will basically be on your own with that while DH has to move your own house. Oh yeah, on 4 hours of interupted sleep a night… I would do it before.
Post # 13
If you will definitely lose money on moving before, then move after baby is born. You should think also about how much you will be able to do at 35 weeks. You’ll be at the end almost and I think a move that late would be so nerve racking. At least if you move months after baby is born you can put baby in a carrier and do stuff. At 35 weeks my guess is you won’t be able to do that much and it will be very stressful when you are getting ready for baby.
Post # 14
You just need a cot and possibly a changing table. There’s no need to set up a full blown nursery, but even if you do, I’d think a day is enough!
Ultimately, I think it might be harder to move at the very end of your pregnancy than with a newborn.. if you will have lots of guests, surely you’ll find someone who can look after the baby when you deal with the move.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
I moved at 3 weeks pp and we had a 2-day drive. DH packed and unpacked everything up and did everything, and my baby was still such a tiny newborn she slept most of the way both days. It was pretty easy. We never had a nursery or planned on one since we bedshared, so that didn’t factor into anything.
Anyway it’s up to you but I’m saying moving with a newborn isn’t bad if your husband does everything!!!