(Closed) Move in with MIL to save money or rent again to save sanity?

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Meglin :  If I were in your shoes I’d live broke with sanity intact.  The last thing you need now is stress and you know you’ll get it with Mother-In-Law.    Try everything else you possibly can to reduce expenses.  *HUGS*

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Is renting a 1 bedroom until the baby is 1+ an option? Babies don’t need a nursery. There is no way I would live with a nosy hoarder for a couple grand.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I tried to post but it seems to be eaten by the interwebz. Anyways – if she has until feb to get shit together, I would give her the chance BUT have a backup in place. having kids + mountains of debt imo is NOT a great idea and Id do everything I could to give my kids the best chance. So I, personally, would consider it, for a short term thing, provided all the ‘conditions’ ar emet.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

It’s a trap!! NEVER move in with you in-laws!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No no no no no.

Don’t do it. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Sanity is WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY more important- rent, don’t move in with the Mother-In-Law.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

Whats your deadline to re-sign your lease? Is it like, Jan 1 for Feb 1? 

If you don’t want to move in with Mother-In-Law (which I totally understand), I would stay in your current place for another year and continue to chip away at the debt.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If you had a great relationship with your Mother-In-Law and plenty of space in the house, possibly. But an opinionated Mother-In-Law with a stressful divorce and a horrendously cluttered house (don’t kid yourself that she will suddenly be tidy)? Nooooo waaaaayyy! Definitely not…

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Broke with sanity intact, absolutely! 

The only situation in which  i would consider  moving in with the Mother-In-Law would be if the only alternative was living on the street.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

The Bee seems to be freaking out. It just ate my response too. Which is probably for the best because there were waaaaay too many capital letters in my first message. I needed to take a breath and dial it back!

Do not move into a house with a nosy negative shopaholic hoarder. The impact to your well being and your relationship will NOT be worth it. I promise you. And it runs the risk of negatively impacting your first year of mothering.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Meglin : 

Youre better off in a noisy but clean 500 sq foot apartment than surrounded by conspiracy theories about pregnancy and hoarde.  

where will the dog go in a hoarder’s house. And no, the hoarde won’t be gone by the time you move in.

The hoarde will never diminish; only increase. Esp with emotional distress, save for a divine intervention.

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