(Closed) Move into his apt?

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you can best answer this yourself with a list, writing each scenario down, and the pros and cons to each 🙂

What’s most important?

Focusing on being a wife? Or getting a dog?

Adjusting to apartment life knowing it’s not forever shouldn’t be an issue. My husband and I have great time together and dinner’s ready by 6, the dog is walked, etc. If those things are important to you, you will make sure everything’s taken care of to your liking.

Depending on the breed of dog you want and how you want to get that dog, some good breeder’s have waiting lists of a year+ for the right pup for you -your timing to live without a dog could work out in your favour if a breeder dog was what you wanted. I wouldn’t worry about “our first apartment”, you’re going to have a home you will own together and that will be a very big first that will trump any apartment I think, but again -your call and pride in that is what matters!

Post # 4
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Honey bee

So you and your fiance have never lived together? If not, I would focus on living together before throwing a dog into the mix. Move into his apartment, save some money, and get used to life as a married couple. Owning a dog is a HUGE responsibility, and you have a lot of big changes to work through in the next few months. Granted, they are exciting changes, but it’s still a lot to take in.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Moving in with someone when you’re used to a certain way of life is really stressful.  So is having a puppy.  I would do one at a time.  Get comfortable in your situation having a new ‘roommate’ and make a ‘home’ for the 2 of you, and then when you have gotten settled in, bring in your new family member.  It would save you a lot of stress piling on at once.  I would definitely move in, save the money, build your relationship together, and start creating your life.  Those are forever.  Then get the puppy together.

Post # 6
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748 posts
Busy bee

I agree with what everyone has said so far. SO and I moved in together after dating for almost 2 years, and then after a few months adopted 2 kittens. We also want a dog, but we want an Irish Wolfhound so needless to say that won’t happen until we own a house with a nice big yard and plenty of running space for him. Cats are different than a dog, but we still took a couple months to just adapt to living together in OUR new apartment (I’ve lived with him during summer breaks from college in his rented room before, but this time it’s actually our place and I have enough space for my stuff as well). And, I can say that the kitties made us into much more of a family (we call each other “mommy” and “daddy” when it comes to them nowadays), they have also brought more responsibility and sometimes arguments (who is going to clean the litter box tonight?). I’d say move in with him first, especially since you’re engaged, and get used to living together. Then you can assess when is the right time to get a puppy. But dogs are different than cats, so if you want more than a maltese-sized dog I’d say wait until you have a home and some space for him/her to run around.

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