Post # 45
I think if you really get on it it is totally doable! We would have had our wedding sooner but we both like the fall. Just make sure you start contacting venues, photographers, officiants, caterers, whoever ASAP.
I have the entire event planned down to the last detail and I’ve been engaged since the end of October.
Also, my grandparents are in their 80s and I’m not worried about them not making it. Are you concerned because they are in ill health?
Post # 46
I wish I could move my wedding date up…i am overanalyzing everything.
I think you can do it…good luck!
Post # 47
Do it. It sounds like you’re not incredibly picky about the venue so it shouldn’t be too much trouble. I got engaged in November and our wedding is at the end of July! it’s possible!
Post # 48
You can definitely do it!! We did it in just over 5 months and it was fantastic. We are also really thankful because my DH’s parents health took a turn for the worse.
Post # 49
@SBourgeous & EleanorRigby: Yes, they are in ill health, though nothing “drastic.” My grandmother has been having “episodes” more frequently regarding her diabetes and got in a wreck a few months ago because her sugar was low and she blacked out. My grandfather had eye surgery last week to remove something (though I can’t remember what) and they just physically look ill. In my first post on the topic, I was talking about how they seem to look worse every time I see them (and these are not super far apart visits). I’m also not set on May 2012. We just picked it because it worked and the theme was cool. We originally had Feb 2012.
Exactly. Haha. Our wedding isn’t going to be some grand affair anyways, it’s going to be OUR WEDDING. 🙂
Post # 50
Well, 1st, I definitely think you can do it. Our wedding is gonna be about 5 1/2 months after our engagement, so when it comes to planning you’re already ahead of the game if you haven’t booked anything that will lose you money when changed.
I’m all for short engagements. I think long engagements are usually just chances to get nervous and spend too much on silly things you’ll regret/not remember later.
On the other hand, if you were really excited about the May date and your theme I can see it being disappointing.
My grandma is in her late 70’s but she doesn’t have any health problems and I didn’t even consider the date effecting her ability to be there. Do your g-parents have health issues or something that would make you think that 1 more year would make a radical difference?
edit: just read your previous post about their health 🙂
Post # 51
Right? I was already feeling kind of “blah” with planning because I had SOOO long that I was like “I can’t do anything yet!” I may just have the opposite issue.
You’re very right – as long as it works and doesn’t cost an arm and a leg, I can make it pretty. We’re thinking maybe August if we start planning asap.
That’s reassuring to me in a way. I also looked at the flip side – if I move it up and they are around for 10+ more years…it’s not like i’m going to regret
it. I will know that I’ve done all in my power to have them there and since I can’t know anything, it’s not a definite. Plus I know we are ready to be married or we wouldn’t be engaged.
Post # 52
Yep, above I detailed it more, but their health is definitely declining. It has been for the past year.
I’m also not super attached to the date, and like SoonToBeMrsA and BaileyH have said, I can still basically do my theme, just Fiesta instead of Cinco de Mayo. Same thing to me. 🙂 I agree that long engagements are kind of scary. I think that may be contributing to my willingness.
Post # 53
If there was any feasible way for me to get married this year, it would totally be happening. Long engagements kind of suck. If you can do it this year, do it! Can we see some of your venue options?
Post # 54
You can absolutely do it, and that is a great reason. We had to move our wedding up to accomodate a move and getting in to grad school. We’d been engaged for a few months by that point, but we hadn’t started planning at all. In the end, we ended up with about 4 months of planning from setting the date to the wedding date. We did have to make compromises, and I didn’t get to have my original wedding vision (the time of year and weather were much different, and the outdoor reception I wanted was not feasible for some of our guests). I also had to make some decisions much more quickly than I otherwise would have, and I compromised on more than I would have if I’d had more time. In spite of all that, I had a great wedding- and the date move was absolutely worth it!
Post # 55
Definitely start contacting vendors ASAP…September is prime wedding season in the southern half of the country! If you live in a big city, there should be no problem finding vendors either way, but if you’re set on particular ones or a particular budget, it’s best to snatch them up as quickly as possible.
Post # 56
Sure. We aren’t having a huge guest list (probably 80, as of right now). So here are a few — I’m just going to link to them. They are all pretty different.
Gwinnett Historic Courthouse
Shamrock Community Use Building
These are all places that we can bring in our own caterer (aka a Mexican restaurant). There are a few other places, but you have to use their caterer and their “Mexican Fiesta” menu, which to me is overpriced for Mexican food. They are still in the running, but I’d prefer to use one of these. As of now, none of them are booked up.
Post # 57
I’m glad to hear that you don’t regret it. 🙂 After all, it is only one day.
Is it really? Lol. I honestly had not even looked into September. The places I linked above for MissFish are not booked yet, though other vendors might be. We’re going to have our big discussion tonight.
Post # 58
The planning for our wedding was completed in less than 6 months.
Post # 59
I’m curious who voted to just leave it and why if you want to share?