- 9 months ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I keep going back and forth with this in my head… so I want to just open it up to some anonymous unbiased thoughts!
Background: I just turned 31, healthy, no indicators I would have trouble TTC but of course you never know. Next January my DH and I will move out of state from our crowded major city and small apartment, to where my parents live (we can afford a house there, better quality of life). My DH will also finish grad school that December 2018 (he goes at night).
My thoughts about just waiting for the ideal timing:
– I want my parents support
-Id be nervous about being a FTM in a cramped, expensive city, small apt, vs the laid back small-ish town american dream ! (house, yard etc)
-my DH works crazy hours and goes to school at night rn, so being pregnant/having a newborn now could feel really isolating. His work/life balance will be better post-move and Id have my folks. I get SAD/winter blues sometimes so I worry about PPD.
-I want to have the baby be the only thing on my plate at the time, the move will largely fall on me so the thought of doing this with a newborn as a FTM makes me want to scream!
-any fertility issues I’d have in 8 months, I’d have now. I feel like the clock is ticking but there’s still time… we only want 2.
-my career is going so well right now, best of my life, why not just keep this job while were still in this city? (I will take 2 years off for each babe)
Thoughts on just TTC now:
-general baby fever (mild case but still)
-DH wants to just get it started
-concerned that I am old, wah
My husband votes now “you cant plan everything!” (my IUD disagrees). I vote just wait till June so I could move pregnant (hopefully) vs moving with newborn. I feel when theres a tie, the one with the uterus gets to tie break.
So what would you do? Any reasoning why? Would love your thoughts.