Move with newborn? Or wait 8 months to TTC? WWYD?

posted 1 week ago in TTC
  • poll: TTC now or in 8 months?
    Just get it started, convenience be damned : (39 votes)
    74 %
    just wait! Its only 8 months. : (14 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    5034 posts
    Bee Keeper

    sparklesalways :  Moving house sucks. But, even if you are pregnant or have a newborn I am sure your loved ones would help. Anyway, when you are pregnant or looking after a newborn your husband can do all the work and when he huffs and puffs you can remind him it was his idea to just get on with it! ha ha. Life it too short. Get cracking! 

    Post # 4
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    8 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We moved from the city to suburbia when our son was 6 months old. I loved being in the city when he was a newborn because I would just wrap him up and put him in the carrier and off we would go on the subway or just for a walk wherever. I do understand worrying about not having family around though too. Hard decision, maybe ntnp for a while and see what happens 🙂

    Post # 5
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    5034 posts
    Bee Keeper

    sparklesalways :  Ha! Sorry – I really I basically totally disregarded your list of the reasons why maybe waiting would be good – but as my mother always said, there is no ideal time to have a baby. Would prehaps missing your opportunity be more upsetting than any of the reasons why now may not be 100%, if so, I would go for it. 

    Post # 7
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    8016 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i would rather move being pregnant than with a newborn.

    Post # 8
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    11890 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    sparklesalways :  We started TTC just before I turned 34. Generally healthy, no indicators we should have issues, we both have siblings who seem to get pregnant/get others pregnany with no issues. We’re now on to cycle 10 and no pregnancy. 

    Not to be a debbie downer but you really never know. Speaking as someone who waited for timing to be right, I can tell you that we both regret waiting. It’s constantly nagging at us – what if we tried a year ago, did we wait to long, all the what if’s will eat at you.

    I say start trying now. 

    Post # 9
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    462 posts
    Helper bee

    I have moved twice during this pregnancy… It sucked beyond belief and I absolutely couldn’t have done it on my own. I needed lots of help- husband was away working for the first move- and had to rely on family to seriously put themselves out.

    I don’t actually know what I’d advise you to do in your positionn but thought I should warn you about the suckiness of moving whilst pregnant

    • This reply was modified 1 week, 1 day ago by  pond. Reason: Typo
    Post # 10
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    3011 posts
    Sugar bee

    My parents moved from a small city apt to a suburban house when I was 2 weeks old. They had help from their parents, so I think it wasn’t too bad. Idk, I know too many people who have dealt with infertility issues to think it’s ever a good idea to put off TTC for convenience type issues. Like I can see putting it off for financial reasons or you/your husband just not being emotionally ready to take that step, but I personally wouldn’t put it off over something like moving. 

    Post # 12
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    250 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015 - City Winery New York, NY

    sparklesalways :  Judging by the list you laid out it sounds like you don’t really want to get pregnant yet. If that’s the case, wait. 

    Post # 15
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    3011 posts
    Sugar bee

    sparklesalways :  “how much difference could 8 months relaly make”

    It prob won’t make a huge difference. But (like pp, not trying to be a debbie downer, just have my own paranoia about ttc that informs all my opinions on this topic!) let’s say you start today and find that you have issues. As I understand it, most docs won’t begin discussing infertility treatment with a person your age who has seemingly regular periods and is healthy until you’ve been trying for a year. So that is something to keep in mind.

    But that being said, I agree with pp – if your gut is saying “not now!” then you should probably go with your gut. I am currently in kinda the opposite situation as you, where we were planning to start trying in about 6 months, but I am ready to jumpstart the process now because I’m worried it will take forever. (I have probably more reason to be worried than you, as I have unusually short cycles and my mom had a really hard time getting pregnant.) DH is a bit reluctant to move up our timeline, but I think I have finally convinced him. cool

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