(Closed) moved and no friends nor family…suggestions?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee

I know what you mean. Darling Husband and I moved without knowing anyone and while we had each other it still got lonely. We had to force ourselves to go out and do stuff.

What are your hobbies? 

I would take classes and go out and do things that revolve around your hobbies because they are probably like minded people.

The way to meet people is simple. Go out. Go to a local wine bar and have a glass of wine once a week. Start conversations with people there. Take classes at the gym. 

Check out meetup.com. Its a great place to find local “clubs” for your interest and age group.

 And then you have to be willing to be a bit forward and ask for a number ando/or suggest doing something with people you like.

Really, it is not much different than dating.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Hey girl! I’m sorry you’re going through this. I lived in Greeley for a year when I was 18 and I had so much trouble with the small town aspect of it that I ended up coming back to Denver. I know how hard it is to meet people in the area. Have you tried taking a class at the community college? Any sort of fun, 1 night a week type of thing? Or how about a volunteer job? These are both ways to meet like-minded people! Gym classes can also be a great way to meet friends.

 

Good luck. I totally know what you’re experiencing, but I fully believe it will get better! It took me years to find the friend group I have now, but the wait is worth it ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@miss. eire:  I totally get it. Greeley can be a bit of an isolating place. I was going to college at UNC during the time and everyone went home every weekend. I used to go to the gym 2x a day just for something to do! I was in great shape, haha, but miserable. Things will get better ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck! 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m in the same boat with our move from Boston to Berkeley, CA. I plan on taking classes (yoga, woodworking), volunteering (not sure where yet, but i’m excited!), and using meetup.com to meet other people who are really into photography. I think if you try those things, too, you’ll find you won’t be as lonely ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know the feeling.  I didn’t make too far of a move, but my family refuses to drive 1.5 (the max) hours to come visit me.  I don’t have all the time and money in the world to make the trip to see them.  It really makes me feel like a piece of shit, to be honest.

As of right now, my life is consumed by working and/or sleeping.  I’ve tried to make friends at my job, but it seems like everyone keeps the work life and personal life completely separated. I’m not sure what else I can do.  It sucks hardcore, but it is what it is.

Sorry, don’t mean to threadjack.  I know going to the gym helps pass time as well.

Good luck.  I hope you make friends soon!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I moved from Ottawa to a small town in Nova Scotia and totally understand. My Fiance is here but I have yet to be able to make a single real friend and only a few aquiantances. Im applying for a new job which I hope will help get me out and about more. I was looking at a gym here but it was 199$ a month like holly crap its not that nice even. I love how this group brings up all the issues I am having in my own life. Were thinking about moving to montreal or calgary or winnipeg for me to go back to school in a year and a half and I cant wait for a city again.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Maybe try meetups?

Its an online organizing website where people of similar intrests can get together with the shared goal of meeting new people and forming “clubs.” A couple examples from the front page are hiking groups, adobe users, cyclists, dog breed meet ups, etc.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

meetups doesnt work for our area there isnt anything and people here arent really into that type of stuff.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I moved from CO to UT with my now fiance last May. It was hard and lonely, even with him there. We both terribly missed our friends and family, and we still do. But it does get easier with time. We have been here almost a year and are starting to feel more comfortable but still miss our people! You will start to meet people soon it just takes time. Maybe you could try taking up a hobby, like going to the climbing gym or a church? I know a few good ones in Fort Collins if you are interested!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I miss living near a climbing gym but hopefully this summer we will get some of our ropes and be able to climb out here (I dont bolder lol). We go to a local ceramic painting shop which is fun but thats about the only activity weve found so far and Fiance isnt in the mood lately.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

While this thread was originally started for newlyweds, many of us were in the same situation as you. Some of the ladies gave great suggestions that you may find helpful as well –

 

How did you make friends after the wedding?

 

Good luck and hope you find yourself settling in soon!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@naturalysam:  Well, maybe you didn’t find anything for you, but i searched Greeley and found a few things that the OP might find helpful. ๐Ÿ™‚

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