- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
Hi all! Just a quick background story…I am from the U.S and lived there all of my life. My husband is from here in England and has always been here. We fell in love, got engaged, and got legally married in the U.S. at City Hall last year in order to make the U.K. Visa process easier for us. Our actual wedding is later this month though.
I arrived here in England in the begining of March. Since then I have planned our entire wedding myself, which is so overwhelming when you have no idea where to go for anything. It’s also taken quite a toll on us financially, even though we cut cost quite a bit more than most people probably do for their weddings.
Anyway, my husband works insane hours and because of the type of job he’s in you just never know when he’ll get home. We live in a small village about 40 minutes from the city and his family. Which seems like nothing but when you can’t drive like me(in this country), it’s everything.
I recently got a job and was supposed to start soon but they ended up telling me they are closing for business in September so I can’t work there now. I am desperate to work, have a life, find friends, and just get out of the house. It is so so hard spending so much time by yourself and not have anything of your own. We live in a small village, where the only thing to do is walk to the local store. That can only entertain a girl so many times! lol I just get bored and buy snacks; so I can get fat and lonely, lovely haha jk
Soooo… leaving my family/friends behind, moving to another country, and planning a wedding myself is taking its toll. My husband is supportive but I know he must be sick of hearing me talk about how homesick I am, mostly because he hates that I’m struggling and ends up getting really frustrated when we talk about it. He wants me to be happy of course. I am close with his sister-in-law, if it weren’t for her things would be much harder. The rest of the family is good, we’re just not very close as of now. I came to England for 6 months in 2014 just to see if I could live here and I got homesick but not like now. At that time he lived in the city, so I could walk anywhere and I saw his family a lot so wasn’t so isolated. So I decided I would be the one to move because he had a good job and I didn’t want to take him from that. Originally he was going to move to U.S but we decided this was more logical.
I am so depressed sometimes, all I can think about is how I wish I could teleport myself back home when he’s at work. I miss having friends and having people around me that understand me. My husband works so often, that having that support is so important. My husband tries but there’s no way he can understand how Im feeling because he’s still surrounded by everything familiar. It’s a lot of humungous life changes at once and it’s completly overwhelming me. This homesickness and crazy lady wedding planning is probably not making me the most enjoyable wife to be married to lol but it’s just so hard to keep it inside when you don’t really have anyone else here to talk too!
I’m sorry for the novel, I am just very lonely and am seriously desperate to have people to talk to! I talk to my friends at home and mom about it but don’t want to over do it so came here since everyone seems so helpful and nice. I am lucky enough that alot of my family and friends are coming to my wedding this month (in England) and will be arriving soon. But still I am having an incredibly rough time adjusting. I’m thinking seeing them will either make it better for me when they leave because I will have gotten my home fix, or make it harder because I’ll miss them even more.
Also, you should know I’m not a super outgoing person unless I know someone, so it’s even harder to make friends. But espeically hard since there’s not really anywhere for me to meet any. I keep joking that it’s like dating all over again, except this time I’m in search of friends lol.
Anyone ever go through anything like this? Does it get easier?