Post # 1
Okay bees, I need some positive vibes sent my way! We found out yesterday that FIs job is moving him 12 hours away from where we live now. We know no one there, no family, nothing. Im scared shitless and dont know what to think.
Im happy for Fiance, this is a GREAT opportunity for him and the money is amazing for someone who has been out of college for a year! And this will be great for us since we will be newlyweds. It will be great for us to get out from everything we know and start fresh married (!!!), but I just cant stop crying. I want to go for Fiance because I know that he would do the same for me, but I just can get excited yet.
Im thinking I just have SO much going on right now, Im just so stressed out with everything.
Ok vent over, thanks for listening!
Post # 3
Awww hon. (((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))) It sounds scary but like you have a great opportunity at hand. Life will never hand you more than you can deal with. This is a huge adventure and maybe a great opportunity to focus on being newlyweds without a world of distractions. You can explore this new step of your life together. Just think of how much fun it will be to poke around your new town together, learn the ins and outs of it, explore together. It’s terrifying but I bet you’ll grow stronger as a team because of it!
Post # 4
@bakerella: Thank you so much for you kind words, makes me feel a lot better!
Post # 5
If it makes you feel better, I’ll be moving from GA to OR after our wedding in July. I won’t know anyone and my whole family is in GA. Just think of it as a great adventure. You’ll meet new people and it will be a great bonding experience for you guys!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club
Big, big hugs!!! I totally know how you feel! I moved to Boston with my then-bf, now Fiance. I had never been there before, and didn’t know anyone. Then, three years later, we moved down to NJ! We don’t know anyone here either.
Seriously, it’s tough. It really sucks at first (not going to lie), but you will slowly find people and familiarize yourself with the new environs.
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 7
My Fiance and I just moved over 500 miles away to OR, and it was pretty scary at first. We did it for more job opportunities for Fiance.
Personally, I was pretty excited, but Fiance was nervous. We made sure to do a few trips out here first, to make sure we knew the town, etc. and it really helped get us comfortable with the idea of moving. Maybe you could try that?
I think it can be pretty exciting for a young couple to venture out and explore new territory…Fiance and I call it our adventure!
The good news is that you’ll have your husband (!!!) to experience all of this with.
Post # 8
I’m sorry to hear you are going through this!! *hugs!* Moving somewhere so far away is definitely scary and you have every right to be a bit upset about it. But it does sound like it will be a better opportunity for you both. Making friends can be really tough, but you can do it! Joing a gym or a book club or something like that. Those are great ways to meet people. Or, if you guys go to church you might meet other couples like you to be friends with. Hopefully your FI will make friends at work too, and you can expand your aquaintences that way, Best of luck to you!!!
Post # 9
I know what you’re going through. Fiance and I moved from Orlando to Houston last summer and I was absolutely horrified at the idea. As a kid, I’d always moved around a lot but we hadn’t moved in over 7 years so I had some really close friends that I didn’t want to leave. Ultimately, it’s been the best thing for us (we wouldn’t have even been engaged yet if we didn’t move out here) but it doesn’t make it less scary/nerve-wracking to begin with. It’ll be a great bonding experience and will give you guys the opportunity to grow even more together. Good luck!
Post # 10
@misskoala: I feel ya!! Hope everything works out for yall, and good luck!
@candy apple: Thank you!! I think your the only person who has told me its going to be hard, and im glad you did! Everyone keep sugar coating it..so thanks for that LOL 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club
@Miss.Lace: I really don’t mean to scare you, but it IS tough at first, at least it was for me! But, DOES get better, and easier. And, as PPs have said, you’ll have your hubby to experience it with!
Post # 12
Aw. I totally know how you feel. We’re moving from St. Louis to the UK in July and I will admit, I’m kind of scared sh*tless too. Im just looking at it as a new adventure in a new place! I agree with candy apple, its going to be rough but what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, right?
You always have weddingbee. 🙂
Post # 13
I totally sympathise… I’m moving this weekend with my FI; 4 thousand kms from everything I know 🙁 It’s freakin’ nerve-wracking. haha.
*hugs* While it will be hard, just think of all the positives. It’ll (eventually) be ok.
Oh and I totally get you on the crying thing…. my mother and I haven’t stopped crying for two weeks… My poor Fiance feels totally guilty.
But good luck!! *gently throws positive vibes in your general direction*
Post # 14
Thank all of yall so much! Im sorry that all of yall are going through the same thing!! Best of luck to all of yall!!
@zippylef: Yes I do always have WB! Im glad I do too!! Yall are awesome!! 🙂
Post # 15
@Miss.Lace: *HUGS* to you. It will be hard, but it will be a great adventure for you and your new husband.
I’m going through something similar right now. Fiance is over in London for the next 3-5 months with the option to stay permanently after the wedding.
My family is in CA, his is on the east coast. It is a fantastic opportunity for him, and living abroad is something I’ve always wanted to do, but the thought of leaving everyone I know for a new country is terrifying at times.
We are still deciding whether or not to do it, the rational part of me says 100% I should go, the emotional part of me is having a much harder time with it.
Post # 16
My ex used to be transferred every year. One thing I quickly learned was that there are nice people everywhere.
Also, take the initiative to meet people. Remember that the people living there already have friends. You are the ones that need to make friends. Don’t wait for people to invite you over. Ask people over for coffee, tea, dessert etc whatever works for you.
Find out if there is a newcomers club or a similar service in your community. They are a source of valuable information along with the tourist services- get lots of great pamphlets to find out what to do in your new home.