I never understand the “list” that men have to accomplish before they get engaged. I feel that if you know you’ve found the person you want to be with for the rest of your life, why wait?
you’re always going to be saving for a future, why not do it together?
You’re always going to be getting to know each other, people change slightly by the different things that happen in their lives, and you both will be learning that by being together. how much more do you have to get to know after 3 years, he should know you pretty well by now.
And maybe you do need to focus on your career, but your career is just one part of your life, he’s another, schools another part, your family and friends, even another. so you have to juggle them all in your life, what’s the difference if you planned a wedding along with that?
I understand feeling rejected, I don’t know rejection is the right word, but i don’t know a better one. you just want to know that he feels the same way about you as you do about him. And before you make your big life decisions, surrounding him, you want to know his cards are all in too.
Sorry if I’m sounding like a Debby downer, i just don’t like when men do this to women. being the sappy girl I am I would make the move too, I would try to live separate from hi, but it would be hard, I would probably end up at his place most of the time anyway, and rent wouldn’t even be worth paying anymore. I’m so sorry your feeling this way. if it were me I would need some serious affirmation that i am “his girl” and he’s thinking abut a future with me. His time limit is too long for me, but if your ok with it, then go for it. you really care about him and don’t want to loose him. Make sure before you really commit to moving that both of your ideas come to some sort of compromise that you are ok with, because if you tell him you are fine with his 2 year timeline, you might be waiting 2 years before your married, are you ok with waiting that long for him? if yes, then by all means jump in the deep end and swim girl!