- 5 years ago
I have been in a long distanced relationship with my boyfriend for just a little over a year. We went to high school together and he has LOVED me since then. Whenever you ask him how long we have been together he takes those 6 years before we started dating into consideration and with a smirk he replies with 7 years lol. My family absolutely loves and adores him and blesses us as a couple.
He is truly God sent and amazing, he loves me and treats me like a queen. A few months into the relationship he asked me to think about moving home to live with him. I saw this as a fair request because I would be moving back to my homeland to be with someone that I love and because of his career. He is an athlete and represents his country. Me asking him to move would be taking him away from his family, his home and his career. Unlike me, he has no family both here (where I am) and there (where he is). All his family members are there.
I recently graduated University and moved back in with my parents and closer to my brothers. Since this move the family has become super close and better. My parents realized how serious my relationship was after I moved in with them and they saw how close and how much my boyfriend and I talked. My mother has always liked him and known of him since high school, my father however has been lost to it all. Not that we exclude him but it’s not a topic I bring up in the house…oh you know my boyfriend blah blah blah. His name comes up very often but nothing that my dad would comment on. For my graduation he came to support me and at dinner he gave a beautiful speech and made it known that he loved me and it was his time to take care of me. Not only did he tell my dad that he did all he could to raise a wonderful daughter but that he was ready to take over from him. My brothers both support my relationship and have a good relationship with him. They talk every now and again when they come over and I am on Skype with him.
My situation is this, I am 21 years old (22 in 10 days), the only girl and youngest in my family, I am in love with someone who is not from the same religion I am from (not that it matters to me), he lives a plane ride away and I don’t know how to approach my parents to tell them I want to move home and be with my love. My parents are super religious and see my relationship as unequally yolked even though they support it. They would not like or approve of us living together. I am at a point in my life where I have lived by the books and tried to do everything right to make them proud and happy. I have thought long and hard and prayed about this move and I would like to take that leap of faith and not burn my bridges should I decide to come back “home”.
My boyfriend and I have decided that I would approach my parents first and then together. This is not a bad idea even though I’d rather us do it together. He has taken the initiative to find me a job where he lives and has also offered to pay my tuition to go and get my Masters at the University there. He does travel often because of his career and I don’t mind that he does ill travel with him or stay home. He is pretty well off and I have no doubt he would love me and care for me. He also promised me that at any time that I want to fly home and see my family he would buy the ticket. He does that now, so I don’t see why he wouldn’t for me to come see my family. If I get up tomorrow and say I want to come and see him, he doesn’t hesitate to tell me to book a ticket. I’m a princess, I get everything I want from him J.
I would love to move by January of 2013, I dread being here for the winter so time is of the essence lol.
Can anyone give me some tips or suggestions on LDR or how to approach my parents? If you have any questions or want clarification on anything please feel free to ask.
In case you’re wondering I live in Canada and he lives in the Caribbean. I spent 16 years of my life living there as well.
Thank you in advance!!! <3