Post # 1
Can someone send some hugs my way?
DH & I moved for him to take a new job, taking us away from all of our friends and family. To make things worse, I quit my job for the move and I’m not used to being unemployed and I haven’t had much luck finding a new job as of yet. So, being stuck at home and having no one to talk to hasn’t made things any easier.
Yes, I know being a newlywed is never easy. Yes, people get in fights over stupid things. This move has just been really stressful. And with DH taking on this new job, he’s been really stressed and not so nice lately.
So, hugs and words of encouragement… please.
Post # 3
@TamiN: I’m sorry your so stressed, moving really does suck, even when it’s for good reasons, and it’s even harder when leaving friends and family behind. Good luck on the job hunt, and I’m sure something will turn up! :hugs:
Post # 4
@TamiN: Sending hugs your way! I know what it’s like to move far away from friends and family and it’s not easy! What state did you move to? Just try and take it one day at a time and know it won’t be this hard forever. One thing that helped me was to find places that felt like “me.” Find a new coffee shop, a nice park, etc… just to get out of the house and make it more of an adventure. It will get easier–I promise!
Post # 5
I definitely know how you feel! 1.5 years ago I moved from CT to FL while my husband was deployed. I didn’t know a single soul down here until I started working. I was lucky in that I was only here for about a month before that…even still, I was here for over 4 months before (then) Fiance got home.
Now, PenguinGuy and I are married and in less than 2 weeks i am leaving my job to pack up and move to CA. Best part? He will be here on the east coast until at LEAST November. :/ So yeah, moving sucks when you don’t know anyone.
::hugs:: If you ever need a shoulder, I’ve got two! ::hugs::
Post # 6
((Hugs)) Feeling alone in a new place SUXS! But it does get better. Just need to create a new community around you.
Def get out of the house. Volunteer or sign up with a temp agency. Find a knitting/crocheting circle (they’ll teach you) or maybe set up a Wedding Bee Meet up in your area.
Post # 7
Hey, I’m about to be in the same boat! We’re moving 1500 miles from our friends, family, and everything we’ve known. He got a job and I’m not employed up in Minnesota yet. I was planning on doing like a PP said and volunteering if I can’t get a job right away and I was also thinking of doing a WB meet up! A WB meet up can help meet people in the area and I figure it could also help me learn about the area.
Am I stressed about going to a place where we know nobody and he’ll have a job five days a week? Of course! But I’m hoping I can continue to look at it as an adventure and a chance to meet new people.
Post # 8
oh honey HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS!
I can relate to your situation. DH and I just moved 6 hours away from all our friends and family. It does get easier but I am lonely sometimes. I have done a lot of posts about my experience if you want to check on my threads. also, feel free to PM me anytime! hang in there.
Post # 9
Def. get out of the house, maybe try some community ed classes you’re interested in, or check out what other activities are going on around where you live, that’s a great way to meet new people with similar interests.
Post # 10
@mandb122: What area of MN are you moving too?
Post # 11
thanks, everyone… I had a moment of self-pity. broke down and called my mom sobbing telling her I wanted to go home. ((and my mother is fantastic and let me know that I can always go “home” if I need to, but I really need to suck it up))
Everyone’s right… I need to find *something* to get out of the house, even if it is out of my comfort zone.
Post # 12
Heya. DH and I just moved as well and are away from friends and are fighting TONS (we hardly ever fight). You’re not alone! So *major hugs* and PM me if you wanna rant 😉
Post # 13
Oh sweetie! That’s so tough. I was in your shoes two years ago. I know it’s hard but try to get involved in your new city to make new friends and maybe make some connections to get a job!
Post # 14
@mandb122: oh my goose! Where in Minnesota will you be? I’m moving to Moorhead, MN in little less than a week and I am gonna be in the same boat. I am leaving everything here, in Atlanta, behind- friends, a great job, a wonderful, loving community. I’m not even gonna go to work when I get there- I’m going to go back to school to study photography instead. KJ isn’t the most sociable person, either, and what few friends he has he doesn’t get to see often because of his work schedule. So I’m right there with you. If you happen to be any where close to the Fargo/Moorhead area, we should definitely keep each other company.
Post # 15
@TamiN: BIG HUGS! I know how stressful moving can be – especially if both of you are in a new place. It’s hard meeting people in a new city, but I would definitely encourage you to get out of the house and get active in your community – workout classes, book club, photography class [just throwing out ideas]. If there is a networking group in your field in the area, that might help on the job front. I hope things start looking up soon – hang in there!
Post # 16
@MsGigi: I so wish we were closer! We’re moving about 50 minutes outside Minneapolis which according to Google will still be about 3 hours away from you! I’m thinking about not working too and just volunteering sometimes and then going back to get a certification in a specific therapy.
ETA: Although if we both find time, we could totally meet up halfway for a day or something. I won’t have a car for a little bit though since my car is good, but not good enough for that long of a drive or good enough to survive the winters.