(Closed) Would you move across the country for DH? no problem?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Monkey786:  I think for me it would depend on your ages and what he is going to grad school for. Jobs are hard to come by and I wouldn’t be too inclined to give mine up.  

Post # 4
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would, but it would have to be a city where I thought I could be happy. 

San Francisco? no problem, let’s start packing!

LA? ummm no thanks, see you when you get back!

Post # 5
45 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would move across the country for my (soon to be) husband if we had a well thought out plan.  That plan would include lots of money in savings in case finding a job proves to be difficult. You don’t want to be scraping by in a new place with no friends or family around.

Post # 7
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I didn’t move across country for my SO, but I did stay in a city that I didn’t think I wanted to for him. We went to law school together and after graduation I always wanted to move back to my home town, but after graduation he got an amazing job in the same city we went to school (where we live now), so I stayed. It was easier for me, though, because I had already met other people. If I was in your situation, I would move, but I would want him to not make the move until I was able to find a job out there (although I know it can be hard to find a job when you aren’t there for interviews).  It can always be hard to move to a city where you don’t know anyone, but you’ll have your DH with you and it’ll be a new experience for both of you together! You can meet new friends as a couple!

Post # 9
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Monkey786:  Given that you said it is one of the top schools, I would take the chance and go with him then.

If it were a lower ranked school and for a Master’s degree in a low-paying field, then I would not do it.

Post # 10
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Monkey786:  I’m on the east coast!  You’ll get used to it!

Post # 11
3 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Monkey786:  I moved from California to the cold East Coast a year and a half ago  for my boyfriend now fiance and am spending all my time trying to plan a move back to California… Lifestyle just doesn’t agree with me here. Perhaps he can also apply for at universities in CA – there are MBA programs everywhere.

Post # 12
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It would depend on a few things: if he’s in school, am I able to get a job there that will support us? Is it someplace i’d actually want to live?

If no to either, then he’d have to pick a different school in a place that met that criteria.

Post # 13
422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

yes, if I knew he felt he was making the right decision

Post # 15
1611 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I wouldn’t give up a job I liked plus family and friends if it was just for a year or two. If he needed to move more permanently then of course I’d go with him!

Post # 16
9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


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