(Closed) Would you move across the country for DH? no problem?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2006

we talked about relocating with my SO. I m a SHAM and i do real estate invest ments with my family so if my husband is getting a better pay job, i don’t mind moving because i can still do investments with my family and bring home the same amount of income wherever i live. I would like to travel to diff countries and experience new things and it will be so nice for our kids to experience diff cultures too. I don’t mind living anywhere as long as if its going to bring a better future for my kids. As long as me my SO and my kids are together, i’ll be fine with moving..My So is orignally from SF and I m from Los angles..We are currently living here in Los angeles..

 

Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Monkey786:  I moved one state over while he was going to school, with an idea that we would move back one day. We didn’t.

I still think about it weekly and wonder if it was a bad idea. After 8 years, it has only gotten worse as friends are having babies and my parents are getting older. I really miss home, but don’t think there is much chance we are moving back. 

There are more job opportunities here, and other things that are good about it, but overall I wish I had never moved from my hometown.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@MrsSaltWaterTaffy:  We did the same thing for the same reason. My Fiance is a welding engineer and got a great job offer in Alabama so we moved from Pennsylvania (I see you live in the Heart of Dixie too …) After a year of searching I finally found a job I love and now we’re talking about moving back home after we get married and before we start a family. 

I never ever thought I would be living here and some days it just blows my mind haha

Post # 50
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@Monkey786:  I’ve mentioned this before but I love sharing.

I moved from the UK to Asia for SO’s job, 6500-7000 miles, 8 hour time difference. So obviously my answer is yes.  We didn’t have any responsibilities like a mortgage or kids, and I didn’t have a job.  Looking here versus “home” made little difference to me.  If you’re building a career I knoew it can be tough but maye there’ll be more opportunities?

It’s taken a while to “settle in”, I’m still not there yet, 6 months later.  But I love it, it’s a life we could never have imagined in the UK.

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

In a heartbeat

Post # 52
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I actually did move across the country for my now fiance.

I was living in FL after moving out of my parents house and trying to make it on my own (I spent three months couch surfing at random peoples houses after things didn’t work out) and my now fiance and I were long distance. We had planned for me to come visit for two weeks and the day before I was supposed to leave I got kicked out of the place where I had been staying and once I got to CA he said he didn’t want me to leave if I didn’t have a place to go back to so here I am. I stayed with my cousin for two months while I got a job (my first job ever) and we saved up money to rent out a room and we have lived together ever since. It’s been a huge struggle and it was out of character for me at the time but I don’t regret coming. Our love is so strong because of all of our experiences together and it makes everything that much more special.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would do it, especially since it is only temporary. Just be sure to plan for vacation time to visit home.

By The Way, the East Coast is pretty awesome! Kinda chilly at the moment, but totally worth it!  I love MA and couldn’t picture living anywhere else. Go SOX!

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i would only do it if he were offered a job that paid enough so that we would not fall apart if i couldn’t find a job soon enough.

i’m too scared to make a big move without a guarantee that we wouldn’t end up homeless soon after.

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I moved from Iowa to California for my Fiance. It has been a big change and I still don’t really have any friends out here, but it has certainly been an adventure! Look at it this way, if he is only moving there for school, then this is just a short detour for your lives. If you know it is temporary, and that you can always move “home” after his graduation, I think you will adjust much easier!

 

Good luck!

Post # 56
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

When we’d been together for 3 months, now Fiance found out he was getting promoted to a new area 4 states away. He didn’t end up relocating for another 4 months, and in that time he asked me to move with him. I actually put my apartment on the market and moved before it sold! Best decision I’ve ever made, hands down!

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Speaking of adventure, I moved from Florida to Alaska for my SO’s job. There was never any doubt in my mind that I was going to do this with him. But I was totally ready to leave FL, so I never felt any real tug in the other direction. Uprooting is sure not easy- it can be traumatic at the worst, annoying at the least- but I’d do it again. 

Moving together was a good experience for us and our relationship- we now feel that if we can survive and make a nice life for ourselves in Alaska, we can do it ANYWHERE!!

 

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I did.  I moved from California where I am from, to Boston where I didn’t know anyone and had never been to before.  I was ready for a change too, but wouldn’t have necessarily moved that far away.  I moved without a job too.  It was super hard to move away from a state that I loved so much, but now (5 years later, and a move for my husband to Colorado) wouldn’t change a thing – either move.  Moving away from your comfort zone really changes you and exposes you to new things that you wouldn’t have experienced otherwise.  But, be prepared for some crazy emotions!  I almost didn’t move from Boston to Colorado where I again didn’t have a job and didn’t know anyone, but I did because love can last longer than a good job (if you both work on the relationship).  Moving is scary, but it is also invigorating…I say go for it!

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would go anywhere he went.

Post # 60
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yep, but my Fiance is in IT so I probably won’t have to. He, however, has to do it for me in a few months!! We aren’t sure where we’re moving yet, but at least half-way across the country because I refuse to live anywhere but a coast anymore. He said he would go anywhere with me, and I feel the same for him! 

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