Post # 1
Well its been almost four months since my Fiance and I broke up. I can’t tell everyone how much better I feel!! I haven’t cried about it in weeks and I don’t think about her all then time like I used to. I have lost 60 pounds and am in the best shape of my life, also I have been sober for over two months!
Moving forward, I finally feel comfortable enough to try and meet someone new. Tonight I will be going on a double date with one of my good friends and his Girlfriend and one of her friends she goes to school with. We are just going out for dinner and just going to have a nice relaxing evening and get to know one another. I have not talked to or met this girl but I’m very excited to meet someone new! Anything special I should or anybody have any tips for my date tonight? I know everyone say just be myself and everything will be fine. I just want to make a good impression! But like I said earlier, I feel so much better about myself and did a lot of thinking about my past relationship I realized I did what I could to try and save it and it didn’t work out. I’m in firm believer in the saying if its meant to be, it’s meant to be.
I want to thank everyone who I’ve talked to on her, everyone has been very supportive. I know I’ve posted maybe to many times but this was something I’ve never gone through and I didn’t mean to annoy anybody.
Post # 3
Don’t rush is the best advice I can give at this point. It is so nice that you are moving on and feel better about yourself.Loving yourself is the first step to being able to enter into a new relationship, even if it isn’t a serious relationship at first.
Good luck and I hope you have fun!!
Post # 4
Glad to hear things are looking up for you!
Of course, be yourself…also, do NOT talk about your ex. Try to keep the conversation about positive things.
Post # 5
I’m glad to hear you’re moving on.
Oh, have fun! And, don’t think about the date too much. I’m sure that your date will be nervous, too, so don’t worry.
Post # 6
Glad to hear you’re doing better. Have fun on your date and enjoy the freedom of being single.
Post # 7
@Packers12: love your happy update! time heals all. Have fun tonight! Don’t rush into another relationship though. Even if you really like this girl, date around – date a few girls at once, then chose one to be in a relationship with. After my first bad breakup, I rushed into a relationship with the first guy I wnet on a date with – bad choice! He ended up being awful. After that ended, I dated around for a while and tried to learn about what different types of people are out there – it’s the best thing you can do for yourself before jumping into another relationship. Don’t let infatuation get the best of you!
Post # 8
@Packers12: Reading your post made my day!
I hope the double date went well.
What worked for me when being set up, or even meeting someone myself, was to think of them as a potential new friend/buddy, instead of my next romantic interest. Less pressure to impress, easier to ‘be myself’, and less disappointed if sparks didn’t fly. I’m still friends with some of these guys to this day.
Most important, don’t be in a hurry to find a new relationship. Enjoy the single life and all the freedom that comes with it!